Coaching practices for I'm Not Wound Up I'm Switched Off Flat and Barely There So Every Just Take Some Deep Calming Breaths Only Sinks Me Further Down When What I Actually Need is Something to Nudge Me Back Up Toward Present
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- I’m not wound-up, I’m switched-off
- I’ve gone numb and foggy and far away, like I’m watching my own life through glass, and every gentle calming thing just sinks me deeper into the fog
- Sometimes I’m too wound up for what’s in front of me and sometimes too sluggish, and I wish I could just dial my state up or down to match whatever the next thing actually needs.
- I’m too wound up to reason my way calm
- I’m too wound up to think my way calm
Practices that may help
- Use a slightly longer exhale to begin up-regulating
An elongated exhale gently lifts the nervous system out of the stillness of collapse.
Dorsal Vagal Shutdown: The Collapse State and How to Emerge - Come up from shutdown
When you are numb or foggy below the window, use stimulation to bring energy back up.
The Window of Tolerance: Your Optimal Arousal Zone - Pacing breath to the state a task needs
Pick the breath pattern that matches whether you need to ramp up or settle down.
Breathwork for Energy - Self-soothe through the five senses
Deliberately comfort yourself through sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch while the crisis peaks.
Distress Tolerance Skills, Made Practical - Five-senses self-soothe
Deliberately engage each sense with something genuinely comforting to redirect attention and activate the soothing system.
Self-Soothing, Made Practical - Pendulation (move between activation and calm)
Oscillate attention between a charged sensation and a place of safety or ease in the body.
Somatic Experiencing, Honestly Explained - Dorsal vagal lift: moving out of shutdown
Use gentle movement and micro-connection to rise from a collapsed or numb state.
The Ladder of Regulation: Navigating Your Autonomic States - The physiological sigh
A double inhale through the nose then a long exhale to reset an overwhelmed state.
Breathwork for Energy - Physical anchoring (feet, contact, pressure)
Press your feet down and feel your contact with the chair or ground to anchor into the body.
Grounding Techniques for Acute Distress - Paced breathing as grounding
Slow and lengthen the exhale to bring acute arousal down while you ground.
Grounding Techniques for Acute Distress
Related concerns
- When Nostril Breathing Left Nostril Breathing
Breathe through the left nostril only to activate the calming, parasympathetic side.
Left nostril breathing (calming channel)
- Numb And Collapsed
When you are flat, numb, or collapsed, use small movement to come back up — gently, not by force.
Move out of shutdown with gentle mobilization
- When Compassion Focused Therapy Soothing Rhythm Breathing
Use slow, rhythmic breathing to deliberately activate the physiological soothing system before other compassion practices.
Soothing Rhythm Breathing
- When Dorsal Vagal Shutdown Temperature To Up Regulate
Splashing cold water on the face or engaging in brief physical action can break the collapse metabolically.
Use cold water or light movement to shift metabolic state
- When Ladder Of Regulation Dorsal Vagal Activation
Use gentle movement and micro-connection to rise from a collapsed or numb state.
Dorsal vagal lift: moving out of shutdown
- When Ladder Of Regulation Identify Your Rung
Before trying to change your state, learn to read which of the three rungs you’re on right now.
Identify your current rung
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