Coaching practices for When I Coach People Almost Everything Out of My Mouth is About Their Body Bend Your Knees Tuck Your Elbow Keep Your Back Straight Because That's What I Can See and I'm Noticing My Cues Might Actually Be Making Them More Self Conscious and Stiff Rather Than Helping the Movement Come Together
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- When I coach people, almost everything out of my mouth is about their body
- I can do this thing fluently when no one’s watching, but the moment it matters I start micromanaging every step
- I catch myself hunched and folded-in, shoulders rounded like I’m trying to take up less space, and I notice I feel smaller and less sure inside when I’m carrying myself that way
- When an instructor says "hold this, now do that," some old part of me snaps into obeying from fear rather than choice, and I end up pushing my body past where it wanted to go
- On the fine, precise part of what I do my attention scatters at the worst moment and the same small technical thing keeps slipping
Practices that may help
- Rewrite internal-focus coaching cues as external-focus equivalents
Audit your coaching language and convert body-focused instructions to effect-focused ones.
External Focus of Attention, Made Practical - Trust Self 2 — give the body an image, not instructions
Set the target in vivid sensory terms and then let the body execute without conscious direction.
The Inner Game: Quieting Self 1 - Posture and embodied confidence
Getting stronger tends to change how you carry yourself — and that feeds back.
Strength Training for Confidence - Practice with invitational language
Receive (and give) movement cues as invitations you can accept, modify, or decline — not instructions to obey.
Trauma-Informed Yoga: Movement as a Path to Safety - Use instructional self-talk for precision skill tasks
Use short technical cues that direct attention to the key movement parameter rather than the outcome.
Self-Talk Strategies, Made Practical - Give performers choice within practice to support autonomy
Offer self-directed options in practice — which drill, how many reps, which cue — to enhance intrinsic motivation and learning.
External Focus of Attention, Made Practical - Direct attention to the effect of the movement, not the movement itself
Attend to where the ball goes or where force lands — not to how your arm or leg moves.
External Focus of Attention, Made Practical - Shift attention to external focus under pressure
Direct attention to the effect of your movement (ball, target, outcome) rather than your body mechanics.
Choking Under Pressure, Made Practical - Use the performance-feedback loop without Self 1
Treat every outcome as information, not a verdict — adjust without judging.
The Inner Game: Quieting Self 1 - Fix the inner state, not the outer mask
Your body language broadcasts your real internal state — so change the state, not the surface.
The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Attentional Focus Motor Learning
Attend to where the ball goes or where force lands — not to how your arm or leg moves.
Direct attention to the effect of the movement, not the movement itself
- External Focus Motor Learning
External focus of attention — directing attention to the intended effect of a movement (where the ball goes, where force is applied) rather than to body mechanics — consistently outperforms internal focus for both skill learning and execution. Gabriele Wulf’s OPTIMAL theory proposes two mechanisms: external focus activates automatic motor control processes, and it enhances competence need satisfaction. Effect sizes in controlled experiments are moderate to large.
- Focus On Target Not Technique
Focus further from the body (on the target, not the implement) for the largest attention benefit.
Use more distal external focus for greater performance benefits
- Internal Focus Motor Learning
Offer self-directed options in practice — which drill, how many reps, which cue — to enhance intrinsic motivation and learning.
Give performers choice within practice to support autonomy
- Coaching Cues Motor Learning
Audit your coaching language and convert body-focused instructions to effect-focused ones.
Rewrite internal-focus coaching cues as external-focus equivalents
- Focus Anchor Inner Game
Occupy Self 1 with a specific sensory observation task so it stops issuing unhelpful instructions.
Give Self 2 a concrete focus anchor
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