Coaching practices for Whenever Something Goes Wrong I Land on Someone Screwed Up Usually Me and Call it Solved but Blaming the Person Never Stops it From Happening Again Because Nothing About the Setup That Let the Slip Happen Ever Actually Changes

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• Whenever something goes wrong I land on “someone screwed up”
• I keep blaming myself and vowing to just try harder, yet the same failure happens again and again no matter how much willpower I throw at it
• One bad thing happens and instantly it’s "this always happens, it ruins everything, and it’s all my fault"
• When something goes wrong I instantly tell myself "this always happens, it ruins everything, and it’s because of me"
• When something goes wrong my first explanation is always bad luck or that the deck was stacked against me, and I notice that story leaves me with nothing to do differently next time

Practices that may help

1. Distinguish human error from system conditions
   When a person is the proximate cause, ask why the system allowed the error to occur.
   The Five Whys
2. Distinguish system causes from individual causes in the analysis
   Most failures have system causes and individual causes; fixing only the individual leaves the system to produce the same result again.
   After-Action Review: The US Army’s Tool for Continuous Learning
3. Identify the three Ps in your explanation
   Check whether your explanation of a setback is permanent, pervasive, or personal — and how accurate each is.
   Learned Optimism: Seligman’s ABCDE Method
4. Catch the three Ps in your explanations
   Notice whether you’re reading a setback as permanent, pervasive, and personal — the pessimistic signature.
   Explanatory Style: Optimism, Pessimism, and Learned Optimism
5. Reframe outcomes toward effort and strategy
   After a result, attribute it to actions you took (or can change) rather than to fixed luck or fate.
   Locus of Control: Building a Sense of Agency
6. Move from blame to contribution
   Ask how each side contributed to the situation instead of who is at fault.
   Difficult Conversations, Made Practical
7. Look for contribution, not blame
   Almost every conflict has contributions from both sides — finding yours changes the conversation.
   Looping for Understanding (Difficult Conversations)
8. Overgeneralization
   Draw a sweeping conclusion from one or a few negative events.
   Cognitive Distortions: The Thinking Errors Behind Anxiety and Depression
9. Correct blaming by adding accountability for self
   When blaming, add an honest account of your own contribution to the problem.
   The Satir Model
10. Move to problem-solving only after understanding is mutual
    Problem-solving before mutual understanding produces solutions neither party owns.
    Looping for Understanding (Difficult Conversations)

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