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- I’ve become so fused with the anxiety that I can’t get any distance from it
- I don’t say "I feel anxious," I say "I am anxious"
- When the anxiety takes over it feels like it is me
- Right in the thick of a panicky moment my head is all "why am I like this, what’s wrong with me," and the more I narrate it as "I, I, I" the more I drown in it
- I narrate everything as "I AM stressed, I AM anxious," like it’s the whole truth of me, and I want to learn to say it more like "there’s tightness in my chest, I notice fear"
Practices that may help
- Use humor as a therapeutic distance-maker
Practice narrating your anxiety to an imaginary sympathetic audience — make it funny.
Logotherapy: Paradoxical Intention - Externalizing the Problem
Separate the person from the problem by talking about it as if it exists outside them.
Narrative Therapy: Rewriting the Stories That Define You - Strengthen the observing self
Notice that there is a "you" watching your thoughts — that witness is stable even when thoughts are not.
Defusion from Anxious Thoughts - Talk to yourself in the third person
Use your own name or "you" instead of "I" when working through a hard moment.
Self-Distancing: Thinking Clearly About Your Own Problems - Notice and name experience from observer position
Describe what is happening inside in the third person of the observer, not the first person of the content.
Self-as-Context (Observing Self), Made Practical - Third-person labeling to activate the witness
Refer to yourself by name or in the third person when narrating your experience: "Dan is feeling anxious."
The Witness Stance - Self-as-context (the observing self)
Notice the steady "you" that observes thoughts and feelings without being defined by them.
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Made Practical - Name it to tame it (affect labeling)
Put the emotion into words — "I’m feeling anxious" — to take some heat out of it.
The Anxiety Toolkit, Made Practical - Unblend from a part to access Self
Ask an activated part to step back enough so you can be with it from Self rather than as it.
IFS Self Energy, Made Practical - Add distance with your own name
Label from a step back: "Sam is feeling overwhelmed" instead of "I am overwhelmed."
Affect Labeling: Name It to Tame It
Related concerns
- When Narrative Therapy Externalizing The Problem
Separate the person from the problem by talking about it as if it exists outside them.
Externalizing the Problem
- Tactfully Telling Someone That They Are The Reason For Your Anxiety
Talk to yourself as you would to a friend — accurate and kind, not harsh or falsely cheery.
Balanced, compassionate self-talk
- When Self As Context Notice And Name From Observer
Describe what is happening inside in the third person of the observer, not the first person of the content.
Notice and name experience from observer position
- When The Witness Stance Third Person Labeling
Refer to yourself by name or in the third person when narrating your experience: "Dan is feeling anxious."
Third-person labeling to activate the witness
- Writing About Anxiety
Put the emotion into words — "I’m feeling anxious" — to take some heat out of it.
Name it to tame it (affect labeling)
- Distanced Self Talk Anxiety
Refer to yourself by name or in the third person when narrating your experience: "Dan is feeling anxious."
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