Coaching practices for It Wasn't One Bad Thing it Was Years of Them One After Another and Every Approach I Read About Wants Me to Pick a Single Incident to Work on Which Feels Impossible When They All Run Into Each Other and the Early Ones Set Up the Later Ones
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- It wasn’t one bad thing
- When I drill one kind of problem in a row I breeze through it, but the second they show up jumbled and I have to figure out which approach each one even needs, I’m suddenly lost
- I tried mixing things up and it just felt like chaos
- I throw myself at a dozen unrelated things and a few years later I’ve got nothing to show for any of them
- I keep tripping over the same thing day after day but only ever see each one as a one-off
Practices that may help
- Use NET for sequential and complex trauma
Unlike single-event protocols, NET is specifically designed for people who have experienced multiple traumas.
Narrative Exposure Therapy (NET): Weaving Trauma Into a Coherent Life Story - Interleaving
Mix different problem types in a session instead of doing them in blocks.
Make It Stick: The Science of Learning - Interleave related skills, not random subjects
Mix things you might confuse with each other — not unrelated subjects thrown together.
Interleaving: Mix It Up to Learn It Better - Organize effort under one top-level goal
Arrange your day-to-day goals as a hierarchy serving one overarching aim.
Grit: Passion and Perseverance, Honestly Assessed - Review across a week to detect patterns, not just daily incidents
Once a week, read your nightly reviews together and name the pattern you see.
The Pythagorean Evening Review - Overgeneralization
Draw a sweeping conclusion from one or a few negative events.
Cognitive Distortions: The Thinking Errors Behind Anxiety and Depression - Locate your single highest-leverage habit
Pick the one behavior whose presence seems to make several other good behaviors easier.
Keystone Habits: The Few Changes That Cascade - Commit to only a few goals per cycle
Choose one to three goals for the 12 weeks so effort concentrates instead of scattering.
The 12 Week Year, Made Practical - Practice classifying before solving
Explicitly ask "what kind of problem is this?" before reaching for a method.
Interleaving: Mix It Up to Learn It Better - Build the capture habit before anything else
Install one habit at a time — start with ubiquitous capture — before adding other ZTD practices.
Zen To Done (ZTD), Made Practical
Related concerns
- When Make It Stick Interleaving
Mix different problem types in a session instead of doing them in blocks.
Interleaving
- Blocked Vs Interleaved
Interleaving means deliberately mixing different topics or problem types in one study session instead of doing them in separate, single-topic blocks. It usually feels harder and slower in the moment, but controlled studies repeatedly find it improves long-term retention and the ability to pick the right approach for a new problem.
- Blocked Vs Interleaved Learning
Interleaving means deliberately mixing different topics or problem types in one study session instead of doing them in separate, single-topic blocks. It usually feels harder and slower in the moment, but controlled studies repeatedly find it improves long-term retention and the ability to pick the right approach for a new problem.
- Control Sort Exercise
A values card sort is a structured exercise — originally developed in motivational interviewing — that forces you to rank competing values by choosing between them rather than claiming you hold all of them equally. The comparison process surfaces implicit priorities that self-report alone misses. Evidence for values-clarification as a lever for behavior change is observational to clinical; the specific card-sort format has good face validity but limited direct trial data.
- Discrimination Training Pairs
Study pairs of similar examples that differ on exactly one critical feature to sharpen discrimination.
Contrast training
- Event Pattern Structure Systems
Ask "what pattern produced this event?" and then "what structure is producing that pattern?"
See at three levels: event, pattern, and structure
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