Coaching practices for When I Sit Down to Create or Perform I'm So Busy Guarding How I Come Across Worried About Looking Foolish or Getting it Wrong That I Never Actually Let Go Into it and That Self Protective Hovering Keeps Me Skating on the Surface of My Own Effort

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• When I sit down to create or perform, I’m so busy guarding how I come across
• The moment I’m up there performing, my head fills with "how do I look, am I blowing this, what are they thinking"
• I can’t get two sentences out before I’m back deleting and rewriting the last one, judging it as it leaves my hands
• Every single thing I try feels like a referendum on whether I’m any good, so I cling to the first passable version rather than risk a worse one
• I freeze before I’ve made a single mark because I’m already measuring it against the polished thing in my head and it falls short

Practices that may help

1. Reduce ego-protective vigilance before important activities
   Lower your guard about how you appear so that full engagement — and peak experience — becomes possible.
   Peak Experiences and Self-Actualization
2. Shift to task-focused attention under performance anxiety
   Redirect attention from self-monitoring and outcome worry to the specific process cues of the task at hand.
   Attentional Deployment, Made Practical
3. Separate the creative session from the evaluative session
   During creation, produce without judging; judge only in a separate editing or review session.
   The War of Art, Made Practical
4. Experiment without attachment to outcome
   Make many small experiments and treat each result as information — not as success or failure.
   The Creative Act: Rick Rubin’s Approach to Making
5. First-draft permission: produce something deliberately bad on purpose
   Commit to writing, sketching, or making the worst version you can imagine — terrible on purpose removes the evaluative stake.
   The Beginner’s Mind in Creative Practice
6. Reframe failure as information, not verdict
   Build a personal rule: "I got data" replaces "I failed" after every attempt that didn’t land.
   Creative Confidence, Made Practical
7. Trust Self 2 — give the body an image, not instructions
   Set the target in vivid sensory terms and then let the body execute without conscious direction.
   The Inner Game: Quieting Self 1
8. Accumulate mastery in low-stakes environments first
   Collect your first successes where failure costs little — so the evidence base is strong before the stakes rise.
   Mastery Experiences
9. Bias toward action over deliberation
   Ship a rough version fast to learn what the problem actually is rather than theorizing indefinitely.
   Creative Confidence, Made Practical
10. Recognize the self-handicapping pattern in yourself
    The tell: you create an obstacle just before a high-stakes performance — and you notice relief, not frustration.
    Self-Handicapping: Recognizing and Stopping the Excuse Setup

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