Coaching practices for Going Through the Worst of it Showed Me Exactly Who Actually Showed Up for Me and It's Left Me Wanting to Pour Into Those Few Real Ones and Gentler Toward Anyone Else I See Struggling Now
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- Going through the worst of it showed me exactly who actually showed up for me
- When everything fell apart, a few people really showed up for me and we got so much closer
- Going through that, I saw so clearly what actually matters to me
- I’ve come far enough through my own version of this that I want to be the person I needed back then for someone just entering it
- When things get hard my instinct is to pull inward and not burden anyone, so I white-knuckle it alone
Practices that may help
- Domain 1 — Deeper relationships
Adversity can reveal who truly shows up and deepen the capacity for closeness and compassion.
Post-Traumatic Growth, Made Practical - Recognize and reinvest in deepened relationships
Notice which relationships grew closer through the hardship, and deliberately invest back in them.
Benefit-Finding: Locating Meaning and Growth in Adversity - Let adversity reorder your priorities
Use the clarity that hardship brings to permanently re-rank what actually matters to you.
Benefit-Finding: Locating Meaning and Growth in Adversity - Share your benefits with others who are facing similar adversity
Once you have found genuine benefits, sharing them with others in similar situations extends both your benefit and theirs.
Benefit-Finding in Adversity, Made Practical - Build supportive connection
Invest in a few reliable relationships — connection is the single strongest protective factor.
Building Resilience, Made Practical - Identify the strengths the hardship revealed
Name capacities you discovered in yourself only because the situation demanded them.
Benefit-Finding: Locating Meaning and Growth in Adversity - Apply 80/20 to relationships and energy sources
Identify which relationships energize and catalyze your best work, and invest in them disproportionately.
The Pareto Principle: 80/20 for Personal Productivity - Domain 3 — Personal strength
Surviving what you thought you couldn’t can leave a durable sense of "I am stronger than I knew."
Post-Traumatic Growth, Made Practical - Find one thing to appreciate in a current difficulty
Without toxic positivity, identify one genuine gift — skill, relationship, or insight — inside a current struggle.
Counting Blessings: The Psychology of Grateful Reflection - Look for genuine benefits without forcing them
Authentic benefit-finding — identifying real ways the experience changed you — aids adjustment; manufactured benefit-finding does not.
Meaning-Making Coping, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Relationships After Hardship
Notice which relationships grew closer through the hardship, and deliberately invest back in them.
Recognize and reinvest in deepened relationships
- Benefit Finding Locating Meaning And Growth In Adversity At Work
Benefit-finding is the coping process of identifying genuine positives — closer relationships, new priorities, personal strengths — that emerged from a hard experience. Research, much of it in health and illness, associates it with better adjustment, though the effects are modest, time-sensitive, and only helpful when the benefits are real rather than forced.
- Discovering Inner Strength
Name capacities you discovered in yourself only because the situation demanded them.
Identify the strengths the hardship revealed
- Finding Benefits In Adversity
Benefit-finding — the cognitive process of identifying positive outcomes, lessons, or changes that emerge from difficult experiences — is associated with better psychological and physical health outcomes in observational research on illness, loss, and trauma. However, positive psychology researchers are careful to distinguish genuine benefit-finding from forced positive reframing, which can backfire. Timing, authenticity, and the type of adversity all matter significantly.
- Real Change After Adversity
Authentic benefit-finding — identifying real ways the experience changed you — aids adjustment; manufactured benefit-finding does not.
Look for genuine benefits without forcing them
- Strengths From Adversity
Name capacities you discovered in yourself only because the situation demanded them.
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