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• I get swept up and give more than I can really afford to feel generous in the moment, and then I quietly resent it for weeks and feel the pinch
• I tend to bottle up all my generosity for one big gesture at the holidays and then spend the rest of the year just spending on myself
• I give until there’s nothing left of me and call it being a good person, and lately I just feel resentful and empty
• My days revolve so tightly around my own needs that I feel a bit hollow
• I notice I only reach out to my network when I need something, and then I’m embarrassed because it’s obvious

Practices that may help

1. Give proportionally to stay in a state of abundance
   Give at a level that feels generous without triggering deprivation — so you can keep giving.
   Prosocial Spending: Why Giving Boosts Happiness
2. Give small amounts more often
   Spread giving across frequent small acts rather than saving it for large ones.
   Prosocial Spending: Why Giving Boosts Happiness
3. Be otherish, not selfless
   Help others in ways that also serve your own goals and interests.
   Give and Take: The Giver Advantage
4. Generosity and giving to others
   Use time, money, or attention for others’ benefit rather than your own.
   Self-Transcendence: Beyond the Self
5. Build reciprocity reserves over time, not just in the moment
   Consistent, low-key generosity creates a reserve of goodwill that outlasts any single transaction.
   The Rule of Reciprocity, Made Practical
6. Give your full attention as a form of prosocial spending
   Treat undivided attention as a resource you can intentionally spend on another person.
   Prosocial Spending: Why Giving Boosts Happiness
7. Make spending on top priorities guilt-free by design
   Pre-allocate generously for your highest-value categories so spending within them needs no approval in the moment.
   Values-Based Spending, Made Practical
8. Allocate part of your values budget to others
   Prosocial spending — money spent on others — generates more lasting satisfaction per dollar than equivalent self-spending.
   Values-Based Spending, Made Practical
9. Spend time on others to feel time-rich
   Giving time away can paradoxically make you feel you have more of it.
   Time Affluence, Made Practical
10. Apply door-in-the-face for prosocial or charitable asks
    The technique was originally tested in a prosocial context and works especially well when both parties share values.
    The Door-in-the-Face Technique, Made Practical

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