Coaching practices for I Keep Noticing the Same Move I Either Go Along with Being Treated Badly or I Dodge the Whole Situation or I Overdo the Opposite to Prove I'm Fine and Each One Feels Like Protection but Somehow Keeps Me Stuck in the Exact Thing I'm Running From

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• I keep noticing the same move
• I keep canceling plans and pulling back from people and telling myself it’s me protecting my energy
• Every instinct I have right now is telling me to cancel, to hide, to not pick up the phone
• There’s this thing I keep dodging
• We keep having the same fight on a loop

Practices that may help

1. Identifying and challenging dysfunctional coping modes
   Spot when you’re in surrender, avoidance, or overcompensation mode — and the schema need underneath it.
   Schema Therapy: Healing Early Maladaptive Beliefs
2. Identify and interrupt avoidance and withdrawal patterns
   Notice when you are avoiding or withdrawing and treat it as the maintenance mechanism, not self-care.
   Behavioral Activation: Acting Your Way Out of Low Mood
3. Opposite action
   When an emotion doesn’t fit the facts or is unhelpful, act opposite to its urge — fully and wholeheartedly.
   DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical
4. Approach when fear says avoid
   When unjustified fear urges avoidance, deliberately approach the thing instead.
   Opposite Action: Acting Against the Emotion’s Urge
5. Understand the cycle you’re both in -- not just what your partner does
   The anxious-avoidant cycle is a loop both partners create together, not a problem one person causes.
   The Anxious-Avoidant Trap: Why Opposites Attract and Then Struggle
6. Name the impostor cycle
   Map your own version of the cycle — anxiety, over-preparation or avoidance, success, re-attribution — so you can see it happening in real time.
   Impostor Phenomenon, Made Practical
7. Reduce covert mental safety behaviors
   Identify and fade the mental acts — rehearsing, planning, distraction — that serve the same function as overt avoidance.
   Safety Behavior Fading, Made Practical
8. Distinguish preventive avoidance from growth-limiting avoidance
   Not all avoidance is the same: some situation selection is wise management; some is shrinking your life.
   Situation Selection, Made Practical
9. Identify and name your negative cycle
   Every stuck couple has a predictable escalation pattern -- naming it lets you step outside it.
   Emotionally Focused Therapy: Sue Johnson's Framework for Lasting Bond Repair
10. Check the facts and opposite action
    Test whether an emotion fits the facts; if it doesn’t, act opposite to its urge to change it.
    Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Skills, Made Practical

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