Coaching practices for Even Doing Things I Care About I'm Stuck Watching Myself the Whole Time How Am I Doing What Do They Think of Me and That Constant Self Watching Keeps Me From Ever Really Losing Myself in the Thing Itself
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- Even doing things I care about, I’m stuck watching myself the whole time
- I keep checking in on myself
- It’s starting to dawn on me that the harder I watch this thing the worse it gets
- The whole time someone’s talking to me I’m watching myself from the outside
- In any conversation I’m so busy watching myself
Practices that may help
- Practice reducing ego-centeredness without self-erasure
Develop the capacity to act fully while temporarily setting aside self-preoccupation.
Maslow’s Self-Transcendence, Made Practical - Dereflection — turn attention outward
Stop monitoring the problem and redirect attention to something meaningful beyond yourself.
Man’s Search for Meaning, Made Practical - Identify the hyperreflection loop
Name the specific behavior you are watching yourself do — and notice that the watching is making it worse.
Logotherapy: Dereflection - Shift attention from self to situation
Redirect your attention from monitoring yourself to genuinely engaging with the other person.
Overcoming Shyness: Philip Zimbardo’s Framework - Shift attention outward during social situations
Direct your focus to what the other person is saying and feeling, not to how you appear.
The Spotlight Effect: Why You Think Everyone Is Watching - Shift to task-focused attention under performance anxiety
Redirect attention from self-monitoring and outcome worry to the specific process cues of the task at hand.
Attentional Deployment, Made Practical - Notice the noticer
Find the part of you that is observing the thought — and recognize it is not the thought.
Self-as-Context (Observing Self), Made Practical - Situational attentional refocusing: shift from self to situation
In anxiety-provoking situations, actively redirect attention outward — to the task, the other person, the environment.
Metacognitive Therapy, Made Practical - Redirect toward a meaningful task
When caught in hyperreflection, immediately shift to a specific task that serves someone or something beyond yourself.
Logotherapy: Dereflection - Shift attention to external focus under pressure
Direct attention to the effect of your movement (ball, target, outcome) rather than your body mechanics.
Choking Under Pressure, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Stop Watching Yourself
Name the specific behavior you are watching yourself do — and notice that the watching is making it worse.
Identify the hyperreflection loop
- When Logotherapy Dereflection Meaning Anchoring
Before entering a situation you tend to hyperreflect in, remind yourself of the larger purpose that makes this particular performance matter less than you think.
Anchor attention in a larger meaning before the hyperreflection starts
- When Logotherapy Dereflection Other Orientation Practice
When hyperreflecting, ask: who needs something from me right now, and what specifically do they need?
Orient toward another person’s need
- External Attention Social Situations
Direct your focus to what the other person is saying and feeling, not to how you appear.
Shift attention outward during social situations
- External Focus Anxiety
In anxiety-provoking situations, actively redirect attention outward — to the task, the other person, the environment.
Situational attentional refocusing: shift from self to situation
- External Focus Of Attention During Conflict
External focus of attention — directing attention to the intended effect of a movement (where the ball goes, where force is applied) rather than to body mechanics — consistently outperforms internal focus for both skill learning and execution. Gabriele Wulf’s OPTIMAL theory proposes two mechanisms: external focus activates automatic motor control processes, and it enhances competence need satisfaction. Effect sizes in controlled experiments are moderate to large.
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