Coaching practices for I Noticed I Got Someone to Agree to Something They Probably Wouldn't Have Chosen on Its Own Just Because They'd Said Yes to Me Earlier and It's Left Me Uneasy About Whether I Talked Them Into it or Genuinely Persuaded Them
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- I noticed I got someone to agree to something they probably wouldn’t have chosen on its own, just because they’d said yes to me earlier
- I got the small yes I was after but it didn’t change a thing
- I open with the big request and watch it get shot down, and afterward I notice the people who got me to commit started with something tiny I could easily say yes to
- I tend to drop the whole big request on someone cold, all at once, and they balk
- I notice I say yes far more easily to people I happen to like, and I want to understand that pull
Practices that may help
- Recognize and respect the ethical limits of foot-in-the-door
The technique can manufacture commitment to things people would not freely choose — that is a misuse.
The Foot-in-the-Door Technique, Made Practical - Ensure the first commitment feels freely chosen
The self-perception update only fires when the person believes they chose to comply.
The Foot-in-the-Door Technique, Made Practical - Commitment and consistency
Get a small, voluntary commitment first; people then act to stay consistent with it.
Cialdini’s Principles of Influence - Elicit a small consistency cue before the main ask
Get a small, genuine agreement or self-description before the main request — people act consistently with what they’ve said.
Pre-Suasion, Made Practical - Liking
We say yes to people we like — and similarity, compliments, and cooperation grow liking.
Cialdini’s Principles of Influence - Harness visible commitment in group settings
When one person in a group makes a visible commitment, others follow — start with the most willing.
Social Proof, Made Practical - Inoculate against counter-persuasion
Expose people to weakened counter-arguments so they build resistance before a real attack arrives.
Elaboration Likelihood Model, Made Practical - Recognize when reciprocity is being used against you
The same norm that builds goodwill can be triggered by uninvited gifts designed to create obligation.
The Rule of Reciprocity, Made Practical - Start with a minimal, easy-to-agree request
The first ask should be small enough that virtually anyone would say yes.
The Foot-in-the-Door Technique, Made Practical - Frame proposals as "yesable propositions"
Make your proposals easy for the counterpart to say yes to — not easy on your terms, but easy to accept as legitimate.
Principled Negotiation, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Consent In Persuasion
The technique can manufacture commitment to things people would not freely choose — that is a misuse.
Recognize and respect the ethical limits of foot-in-the-door
- The Foot In The Door Technique During A Big Change
The foot-in-the-door technique works by getting a small commitment first — then making a larger request. The initial compliance activates self-perception ("I’m someone who does this") and commitment-consistency processes that make the larger request harder to refuse. Freedman & Fraser’s 1966 original study is well-replicated, with meta-analyses finding medium effect sizes — though the effect size and boundary conditions vary meaningfully by context.
- Voluntary Compliance And Persuasion
The technique can manufacture commitment to things people would not freely choose — that is a misuse.
- Double Opt In Introduction
The technique can manufacture commitment to things people would not freely choose — that is a misuse.
- Inoculation Theory Persuasion
Expose people to weakened counter-arguments so they build resistance before a real attack arrives.
Inoculate against counter-persuasion
- Persuasion Requests
Get a small, genuine agreement or self-description before the main request — people act consistently with what they’ve said.
Elicit a small consistency cue before the main ask
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