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  • My new habits only survive on the good days when I’m rested and motivated, then the first hard, exhausting day comes and they collapse
  • I do great with a new habit until the first bad day
  • Every habit I try sets the daily bar at what I think I should manage, and then the first exhausted, overwhelmed day comes and I just can’t face it
  • The tiny version is working and a few days in it feels so easy that I get impatient and crank it way up
  • My tiny habit is finally rock solid, so my instinct is to crank up the targets on a schedule

Practices that may help

  1. Shrink the behavior until it’s tiny
    Scale the habit down to something you can do even on your worst, busiest day.
    Tiny Habits, Made Practical
  2. Design the habit to be no-fail even on your worst day
    A habit that can be skipped on hard days will be skipped — the minimum must survive your worst-case day.
    Mini Habits, Made Practical
  3. Shrink the habit until it is guaranteed
    Cut the behavior down until skipping it would be more effort than doing it.
    Micro Habits: Start Absurdly Small
  4. Scale up only after the habit is automatic
    Grow the habit gradually, and only once the micro version runs without effort.
    Micro Habits: Start Absurdly Small
  5. Let the habit grow on its own
    Once the tiny habit is automatic, let it expand naturally instead of forcing more.
    Tiny Habits, Made Practical
  6. Favor consistency over intensity
    Show up small every day rather than going hard occasionally.
    Kaizen: Change by Tiny Steps
  7. Start with a maximum of three mini habits simultaneously
    More than three mini habits at once means none of them are truly mini — the simplicity is the point.
    Mini Habits, Made Practical
  8. Find the 20% of habits driving 80% of your wellbeing
    Survey your routines to discover which few habits produce most of your energy, mood, and focus.
    The Pareto Principle: 80/20 for Personal Productivity
  9. Master your daily routines
    Engineer reliable morning and evening routines so good choices happen by default.
    The Compound Effect, Made Practical
  10. Actively protect valuable existing habits during transitions
    Deliberately transfer the cues for good habits to the new context before the disruption extinguishes them.
    The Habit Discontinuity Effect

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