Coaching practices for We Had a Reorg Lost a Key Person Changed Direction and Suddenly the Team That Used to Hum is Fighting and Second Guessing Again and I'm Treating it Like They Broke Instead of Seeing the Ground Shifted Under Them
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- We had a reorg — lost a key person, changed direction — and suddenly the team that used to hum is fighting and second-guessing again, and I’m treating it like they broke instead of seeing the ground shifted under them.
- My team has finally figured out how to work together, but it all lives in everyone’s heads
- My team is genuinely running well without me now, but I keep inserting myself into decisions they could make
- I raised the hard truth nobody wanted to hear and now the whole pushback has turned on me
- When someone attacks a decision I made it lands like they’re attacking who I am, and I go straight to defensive or wrecked
Practices that may help
- Recognize and recover from stage regression
A team that was Performing can drop back to Storming — and the recovery move is different from the original ascent.
Tuckman’s Stages of Team Development - Norming: codify agreements in writing
What the team has figured out informally needs to become explicit so it survives personnel changes.
Tuckman’s Stages of Team Development - Performing: step back and protect the conditions
A Performing team needs air cover and resources, not direction.
Tuckman’s Stages of Team Development - Hold steady when the system pushes back
Expect displacement, scapegoating, and pressure to return to the old equilibrium — and stay the course.
Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical - Distinguish your self from your role
Separate who you are from the authority position you occupy — your role takes the heat, not you.
Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical - Diagnose the challenge before choosing the response
Ask whether the problem requires new expertise (technical) or new values and behavior (adaptive).
Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical - Run brief after-action reviews without blame
After any significant outcome — success or failure — ask four questions together as a team.
Psychological Safety in Teams - Forming: provide clarity before connection
In the first stage, a new team needs structure and purpose more than it needs team-building.
Tuckman’s Stages of Team Development - There are no bad teams, only bad leaders
The same people perform differently under different leadership — so start with the leadership.
Extreme Ownership, Made Practical - Frame the work as a learning problem, not an execution problem
Name the uncertainty and interdependence out loud so people expect to learn, not just deliver.
Psychological Safety, Made Practical
Related concerns
- New Team Clarity
In the first stage, a new team needs structure and purpose more than it needs team-building.
Forming: provide clarity before connection
- Tuckman S Stages Of Team Development After A Loss
Bruce Tuckman’s model describes four stages every team moves through — Forming, Storming, Norming, and Performing — before optionally Adjourning. The stages are a useful diagnostic map for leaders: friction in a new team is usually normal Storming, not a personnel problem.
- When Tuckman Stages Norming Codification
What the team has figured out informally needs to become explicit so it survives personnel changes.
Norming: codify agreements in writing
- Why New Teams Struggle
In the first stage, a new team needs structure and purpose more than it needs team-building.
- Adjourning Stage Team
How a team ends shapes how each member begins the next one.
Adjourning: close the team with intention
- Developing Your Team
Assign Q3 tasks to team members who are ready to stretch — and treat the learning curve as the point.
Use delegation as a development tool
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