Coaching practices for Which Roles Are Worth Keeping
Describe almost anything you are working through and IX Coach finds the practices whose real-world fit is closest. For Which Roles Are Worth Keeping, these are the strongest matches in the current practice library.
Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- The role that told me who I was just ended
- I’ve defined being a good parent (or partner, or manager) by whether the other person turns out happy and successful
- I’m good at my job and on top of my commitments, and yet I’m quietly miserable
- They handled the money, or the cooking, or were just the person I leaned on
- I keep making the call that looks good this quarter and quietly costs the team a year out, and I want to start deciding like someone holding all this in trust for the long run rather than spending it to hit the number in front of me.
Practices that may help
- Anchor self-definition in values, not roles
Define yourself by what you stand for rather than by the roles you play — roles change; values endure.
Self-Concept Clarity, Made Practical - Accept your role (not its outcomes) as your commitment
Commit to the role — parent, manager, friend, citizen — as a practice, with its obligations, not as a guarantee of outcomes.
The Stoic Reserve Clause - Apply the matrix at the role level, not just the task level
Audit which of your entire roles or commitments are Q1, Q2, Q3, or Q4 — not just individual tasks.
The Eisenhower Life Audit - Task 3: Adjust to a world without the person
Actively develop new skills, roles, and identity elements to navigate the changed life.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Practice foresight and stewardship
Hold the team’s resources and future in trust — decide for the long game, not just this quarter.
Servant Leadership, Made Practical - Develop successors who will surpass you
Invest in your successor’s success as a deliberate act of institutional ambition.
Level 5 Leadership: Humility and Will in Great Leaders - Migrate tasks deliberately at the end of each month
At the month’s end, rewrite unfinished tasks by hand — only those worth the effort of rewriting survive.
The Bullet Journal Method, Made Practical - Expand your role through extra-role behavior
Voluntarily take on work beyond your formal responsibilities to signal readiness for a higher-trust relationship.
Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical - The seasonal values revisit
Re-sort your cards every three to six months — values shift, and the map should too.
Values Card Sort - Run the reverse test: what would you give up if income dropped?
Test your spending choices by asking which you’d cut first if income fell — that reveals what is genuinely valued.
Lifestyle Creep: Why Raises Don’t Make You Richer
Related concerns
- Changed My Job Title On My Cv
Replace passive job board browsing with active research into specific organisations you want to understand.
Build and work a target list of roles and organisations
- Being Asked To Change My Last Name In Hr System To Work With It Systems
When your social group changes, use the transition to adopt the behavioral norms of the new group rather than carrying old ones.
Use social transitions to change the norms around your behavior
- When Leader Member Exchange Expand Role Beyond Job Description
Voluntarily take on work beyond your formal responsibilities to signal readiness for a higher-trust relationship.
Expand your role through extra-role behavior
- Character Role Model
Select a specific person whose character in a specific domain you want to internalize, and study how they act — not just what they say.
Choose and study role models deliberately
- Could Forced Use Of Genai Be Considered A Material Change In Job Role
Voluntarily take on work beyond your formal responsibilities to signal readiness for a higher-trust relationship.
- Creative Role Play
Step into a named other’s perspective to access approaches you would not generate as yourself.
Ask what a specific other person would do
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