Coaching practices for Why Behavior Change Fails

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • I’ve thrown so much at this change and it still won’t stick, and I honestly can’t tell whether the real problem is that I don’t want it enough, don’t know how, or my whole setup makes it impossible
  • I keep hitting obstacles I didn’t see coming and each one feels like proof I’m failing, when really I just don’t fully understand how this is supposed to work yet
  • I keep failing at the same thing and I’ve decided I’m just lazy or weak
  • I reach for the same go-to fix for every change
  • I genuinely want to do the thing, but my whole space fights me on it

Practices that may help

  1. Diagnose before you prescribe with COM-B
    Before picking a strategy, identify which of Capability, Opportunity, or Motivation is the bottleneck.
    The COM-B Model and Behavior Change Wheel
  2. Build psychological capability through knowledge and practice
    Acquire the understanding and self-regulatory skill the behavior demands before expecting consistent performance.
    The COM-B Model and Behavior Change Wheel
  3. Diagnose which element — motivation, ability, or prompt — is the bottleneck
    When a behavior isn’t happening, ask: Is the person motivated enough? Can they do it? Are they being prompted?
    The Fogg Behavior Model, Made Practical
  4. Match your intervention type to the COM-B gap
    Use the Behavior Change Wheel to select the intervention approach that fits the diagnosed gap — not your default.
    The COM-B Model and Behavior Change Wheel
  5. Engineer your physical environment to create opportunity
    Rearrange space, tools, and access so the desired behavior is the path of least resistance.
    The COM-B Model and Behavior Change Wheel
  6. Apply the experiential processes early, behavioral ones later
    Use consciousness-raising and emotional arousal early; counter-conditioning and stimulus control after you commit.
    The Transtheoretical Model of Change, Made Practical
  7. The COM-B Model and Behavior Change Wheel
    COM-B (Capability, Opportunity, Motivation, Behavior) is a diagnostic framework developed by Michie and colleagues that maps the three conditions any behavior requires: you must be able to do it, have the opportunity to do it, and want to do it. Research supporting COM-B as a systematic intervention framework is largely expert-consensus and observational rather than RCT; its main value is stopping you from applying the wrong lever.
  8. Install feedback loops to track behavior and adjust
    Measure the behavior directly and use the data to update your intervention, not just your motivation.
    The COM-B Model and Behavior Change Wheel
  9. Minimum viable version of the behavior
    Reduce the new behavior to the smallest unit that still tests the hypothesis.
    Tiny Experiments: Testing Change Without Committing to It
  10. Change one thing, not everything
    Concentrate all your behavior-change budget on a single keystone instead of spreading it thin.
    Keystone Habits: The Few Changes That Cascade

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