Coaching practices for Why Do I Keep Doing This
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I keep doing this thing I hate myself for afterward, and it makes no sense until I admit it does give me something in the moment
- I keep doing this thing I swear I’ll stop, and I genuinely can’t say what sets it off or what I’m even getting out of it
- I keep overthinking because some part of me is convinced that if I just chew on it long enough I’ll finally figure it out
- My brain keeps pinging me with everything I’m scared to forget, even at 2am, because some part of me doesn’t believe any of it is actually written down somewhere safe
- Whenever I manage to stop one version of it, the same restless need just leaks out somewhere else
Practices that may help
- Map the short-term and long-term consequences of the behavior
List what the behavior actually produced — good and bad, immediate and delayed.
Behavioral Chain Analysis: The DBT Method for Understanding Problem Behaviors - Map the cue-routine-reward loop
Break a habit into its three parts before you try to change anything.
The Power of Habit, Made Practical - Identify what triggers rumination and what it promises
Map the cues, perceived benefits, and costs of your personal rumination pattern.
Rumination-Focused CBT, Made Practical - Capture everything into a trusted inbox
Get every open loop out of your head and into one external place you trust.
Getting Things Done (GTD), Made Practical - Assess the function of the habit before trying to stop it
What does the habit give you? The competing response needs to meet the same underlying need.
Habit Reversal Training, Made Practical - Memory cleaning (releasing the past)
Identify a grievance you are still carrying and practice releasing it rather than replaying it.
Ho'oponopono: Hawaiian Forgiveness and Reconciliation - Recurring pattern identification
Name a pattern you keep repeating across different contexts, and trace where it began.
Svadhyaya: Self-Study as a Daily Practice - Keep a task-unrelated thought log
Capture off-task thoughts that recur so you can address them outside work time.
Mind Wandering and the Default Mode Network - Examine your assumptions, not just your actions
When reflection reveals a pattern of repeated mistakes, look for the underlying belief that generates them.
Kolb’s Experiential Learning Cycle: Learning by Doing and Reflecting - Climb the why–why ladder
Ask "why is this a problem?" repeatedly to reveal the higher-level goal your current framing may be missing.
Problem Reframing: Solving the Right Problem First
Related concerns
- When Savoring The Moment Savoring Killers
Notice the mental habits that most reliably interrupt your positive experiences and address them specifically.
Identify and reduce your personal savoring killers
- When The Power Of Habit Map The Habit Loop
Break a habit into its three parts before you try to change anything.
Map the cue-routine-reward loop
- Why Am I Doing This
List what the behavior actually produced — good and bad, immediate and delayed.
Map the short-term and long-term consequences of the behavior
- Why Do I Keep On Repeating The Same Mistake Over And Over Again Even If I Know I Will Get The Same Result
When reflection reveals a pattern of repeated mistakes, look for the underlying belief that generates them.
Examine your assumptions, not just your actions
- When Habit Reversal Training Habit Function Assessment
What does the habit give you? The competing response needs to meet the same underlying need.
Assess the function of the habit before trying to stop it
- When Leverage Points Resist Optimizing Numbers
Notice when you are adjusting numbers and ask whether the structure is the actual problem.
Resist the pull to optimize parameters when structure is the problem
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