Coaching practices for Why Do Kisses Stop a Child From Hurting
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- After a blow-up with my kid we both stay frozen and far apart, and I keep trying to talk it through, to get an apology, while the distance just drags on
- When my kid is melting down I feel trapped between two bad options
- When my child gets upset my whole reflex is to make it stop as fast as possible
- My consequences keep escalating into these long, draining standoffs that wreck the whole evening for both of us, and I just want a way to mark that a line was crossed, let it pass in a few seconds, and have us back to okay without the drawn-out battle.
- My kid is sobbing about something that seems so small, and every instinct in me wants to explain why it’s not a big deal
Practices that may help
- Use play to re-establish connection after conflict or separation
Playful physical contact after a difficult moment re-welds the relationship faster than discussion.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Use empathy to de-escalate, not to capitulate
Name the child’s emotional state without agreeing with every demand — empathy and limits can coexist.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Treat the emotional moment as a teaching opportunity
When your child is upset, slow down instead of speeding toward resolution.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Use a brief reset rather than escalating consequences
A short, calm time-out ends the incident without energizing it.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Listen empathically and validate the feeling
Reflect the emotion you see accurately before you do anything else.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Refuse to energize negative behavior
Give consequences briefly and blandly — no energy, no lecture, no drama.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Hold Plan B conversations proactively, not reactively
Solve the problem before the next explosion, when everyone is calm.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Allow natural consequences to do the teaching
Step back and let the world respond — your child learns more from being cold than from being lectured about coats.
Natural and Logical Consequences (Rudolf Dreikurs) - Help the child label the emotion with words
Naming the feeling turns a body sensation into something the child can think about.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Set limits on behavior while accepting the feeling
All feelings are acceptable; not all behaviors are — hold both at once.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
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