Coaching practices for Working with Your Inner Critic for My Teenager
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I’ve tried for years to just shut this critical voice up and it never works
- The harsh thoughts move so fast in my head I can’t get any grip on them
- The voice in my head feels like just me
- One thing went badly and now my whole head has rewritten it into "I’m incompetent"
- One part of me wants out, another part won’t let me, and they just war with each other on a loop
Practices that may help
- Inquire into what the critic is protecting
Ask your inner critic what it is afraid would happen if it stopped criticizing you.
Working With Your Inner Critic - Working With Your Inner Critic
The inner critic is not silenced by arguing with it or fighting it — it is disarmed by recognizing it as a learned protective strategy and responding with the same warmth you would offer a struggling friend. Self-compassion practices show reliable effects on self-criticism and psychological well-being in multiple meta-analyses. - Critic journaling — transcript and response
Write what the critic says in one column; write a compassionate adult response in the other.
Working With Your Inner Critic - Name and externalize the inner critic
Give the critic a name and treat it as a character, not the truth about you.
Working With Your Inner Critic - Reframe the critic’s verdict as data, not identity
When the critic says "you failed," redirect to "what can I learn?" — a specific question, not a pep talk.
Working With Your Inner Critic - Working with Multiple Selves (Chair Work in CFT)
Give voice to different internal parts — the critic, the anxious self, the compassionate self — to understand and change the dialogue.
Compassion-Focused Therapy: Calming the Inner Critic - The inner critic dialogue
Give the inner critic a voice on paper and then respond — the goal is dialogue, not silencing.
Shadow Work - Replace harsh self-criticism with compassionate self-enquiry
When the inner critic fires, respond with curious investigation rather than more demands.
Radical Openness: The RO-DBT Approach to Overcontrol and Loneliness - Developing the Compassionate Self Voice
Build an inner voice that responds to your suffering with wisdom, warmth, and commitment to wellbeing.
Compassion-Focused Therapy: Calming the Inner Critic - "Thank you, mind" — defusing the inner critic with friendly acknowledgment
When a harsh inner critic fires, respond with "Thank you, mind, for trying to protect me."
Cognitive Defusion (ACT), Made Practical
Related concerns
- Working With Your Inner Critic As A Parent
Ask your inner critic what it is afraid would happen if it stopped criticizing you.
Inquire into what the critic is protecting
- Working With Your Inner Critic When Burned Out
The inner critic is not silenced by arguing with it or fighting it — it is disarmed by recognizing it as a learned protective strategy and responding with the same warmth you would offer a struggling friend. Self-compassion practices show reliable effects on self-criticism and psychological well-being in multiple meta-analyses.
- Defusing Inner Critic
When a harsh inner critic fires, respond with "Thank you, mind, for trying to protect me."
"Thank you, mind" — defusing the inner critic with friendly acknowledgment
- Externalize The Inner Critic
Give the critic a name and treat it as a character, not the truth about you.
Name and externalize the inner critic
- Ifs Inner Critic
Ask your inner critic what it is afraid would happen if it stopped criticizing you.
- Inner Critic Exercises
Write what the critic says in one column; write a compassionate adult response in the other.
Critic journaling — transcript and response
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