Coaching practices for Write About Difficult Experience

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  • There’s a painful thing that happened that I’ve never really let myself look at
  • Something hard happened and it’s still a tangled knot of feeling in my chest that I can’t make any sense of
  • I’m carrying a hard experience I’ve never really processed, and I think I need to actually sit down and write it all out over a few days
  • This thing that happened still sits in me like a loose, raw piece that never got stitched into the rest of my life
  • There’s one particular thing I keep flinching away from looking at directly, and I notice I want to write about something safer instead

Practices that may help

  1. Use the Pennebaker expressive writing protocol for difficult experiences
    Write continuously for 15-20 minutes about a difficult experience — including your thoughts, feelings, and its connection to the rest of your life.
    Journaling for Clarity
  2. Journal about it in the third person
    Write through a hard experience narrating yourself by name to combine distancing with expressive writing.
    Self-Distancing: Thinking Clearly About Your Own Problems
  3. Follow the core Pennebaker protocol
    Write continuously for 15-20 minutes per day for three to four consecutive days about a difficult emotional experience.
    Expressive Writing (Pennebaker)
  4. Build a coherent narrative of the experience
    Write the hard event into a story that connects it to who you are and where you’re going.
    Benefit-Finding: Locating Meaning and Growth in Adversity
  5. Choose the specific difficulty to write about
    Pick one real, specific thing you feel ashamed or harsh about — not a hypothetical.
    The Self-Compassion Letter, Made Practical
  6. Expressive writing about emotional experiences
    Write unfiltered about your feelings and thoughts around a difficult event — for processing, not performance.
    Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical
  7. Find the meaning your hardest experiences made available
    Revisit your most difficult chapters and look for what only that experience could teach.
    Life Review and Reminiscence Therapy
  8. Write an impact statement — why the trauma happened and how it affected you
    A written account of the meaning you made of the trauma is CPT’s starting point for finding stuck points.
    Cognitive Processing Therapy (CPT): Unsticking the Meanings That Maintain PTSD
  9. Witness journaling
    Write about today’s events as if you are observing yourself from the outside.
    Svadhyaya: Self-Study as a Daily Practice
  10. Write to yourself about your struggles as you would write to a close friend
    When you are struggling, write a paragraph to yourself from the perspective of a compassionate, wise friend who knows your situation.
    Expressive Writing (Pennebaker)

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