Run toward the feeling
Actively invite more of the anxiety rather than waiting nervously for it to pass.
Why it works
Bracing for anxiety keeps you hypervigilant and reinforces that the feeling is an enemy to monitor. Deliberately asking for more of it — even with curiosity or playful defiance — collapses the avoidance that sustains fear, because you cannot simultaneously dread something and welcome it. This is exposure turned inward, toward the sensations themselves.
How to do it
- Say (silently or aloud) "give me more — I can handle this" toward the sensation.
- Get curious about the feeling instead of guarding against it.
- Treat surges as practice reps, not setbacks, when they come.
Evidence
Moving toward feared internal sensations rather than avoiding them is the mechanism behind interoceptive exposure, a well-established component of anxiety treatment. (mechanistic)
The "run toward" framing is consistent with exposure principles; do this as a self-help skill, and seek professional guidance for severe or recurrent panic.
Common mistake
Saying the words while still tensing and secretly hoping the feeling vanishes — half-hearted invitation keeps the avoidance intact.
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More practices for The DARE Response to Anxiety, Made Practical
- Defuse the catastrophic thought
Meet the "what if" with a neutral "so what / whatever" instead of arguing or believing it.
- Allow the sensations without resisting
Let the physical feelings of anxiety be present instead of bracing against them.
- Engage with the present moment
Once the edge comes off, redirect attention fully into an activity or your surroundings.
- Drop the safety behaviors
Let go of the small avoidances and crutches you use to feel "safe" from anxiety.
- Rehearse the response before you need it
Learn and practice the four steps in low-stakes moments so they are available under pressure.