Check the ego
Ego clouds judgment, blocks feedback, and turns disagreements into contests.
Why it works
Ego biases information: a leader protecting their self-image discounts inconvenient data and resists correction, degrading decisions exactly when stakes are high. Setting ego aside reopens the flow of bad news upward — the information leaders most need and least often get.
How to do it
- When you feel defensive, treat it as a signal to ask a question rather than make a case.
- Actively invite the criticism you least want to hear, then thank the person for it.
- Separate being right from getting it right — optimize for the second.
Evidence
A practitioner principle that maps onto well-documented cognitive biases — confirmation bias and ego-defensive reasoning — which degrade judgment under threat to self-image. (mechanistic)
The principle is sound but vague; "check the ego" gives no procedure. The operational version is structured dissent and actively soliciting bad news.
Sources
- Nickerson (1998), confirmation bias review, Review of General Psychology
Common mistake
Equating confidence with ego and overcorrecting into indecision — humility is about staying correctable, not about doubting every call.
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More practices for Extreme Ownership, Made Practical
- Take extreme ownership
When the team fails, the leader looks first at what the leader did or failed to do.
- There are no bad teams, only bad leaders
The same people perform differently under different leadership — so start with the leadership.
- Believe — and make the why clear
You cannot lead people toward a mission you do not understand or believe in yourself.
- Cover and move (teamwork over silos)
Every team and department exists to support the others toward the same mission, not to win locally.
- Decentralized command
Push decisions to the people closest to the problem, bounded by a clear commander’s intent.
- Prioritize and execute
Under overload, name the single highest priority, solve it, then move to the next.