Premeditate the difficult people
Each morning, expect to meet the ungrateful, the arrogant, and the dishonest — and pre-decide your response.
Why it works
Marcus opens Book 2 by rehearsing the difficult people he’ll meet, so their behavior arrives as expected rather than as an ambush. Expectation blunts the emotional spike; pre-deciding your response means you act from principle instead of reacting from surprise. It’s an if-then plan aimed at the most reliable source of daily friction: other people.
How to do it
- Each morning, name the kinds of behavior you’re likely to hit today (rudeness, flakiness, ego).
- Remind yourself they act from their own ignorance of good and bad, not to wrong you specifically.
- Pre-decide your response — what you’ll do, and what you’ll refuse to let it cost you.
Evidence
Combines two studied mechanisms: implementation intentions (if-then plans reliably improve follow-through) and the reduced sting of expected versus unexpected aversive events. Both are real; their application to morning people-rehearsal is the Stoic packaging. (mechanistic)
The if-then plan literature is strong, but this specific morning-people rehearsal hasn’t been tested as a protocol. Treat it as a sound application, not a proven one.
Common mistake
Letting it curdle into cynicism — going in braced for everyone to be awful. The aim is calm readiness and charity toward others’ motives, not pre-loaded contempt.
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More practices for Meditations, as Marcus Practiced It
- Write to yourself (the Meditations method)
Keep a private notebook where you argue yourself back to your own principles, in your own words.
- Strip the event to the bare facts
Describe what actually happened without the story you’ve wrapped around it.
- Place it in the scale of the whole
Set your problem against the size of the universe and the brevity of all human time.
- Retreat to the inner citadel
When the world presses in, withdraw into your own mind — the one place no one can occupy.
- Do the task in front of you, fully
Treat each present action as if it were your last, with full attention and no half-measures.
- Account for what you owe others
Regularly recall, by name, the people and gifts that made you who you are.
Related concepts
- Stoicism, as a Set of Practices
The six exercises that turn the philosophy into a daily discipline
- The Enchiridion, as a Handbook
Epictetus’ field manual, turned into trainable moves
- Seneca on Time, Made Practical
Treating time as the only wealth you can’t earn back
- The Obstacle Is the Way, in Practice
Perception, action, and will — turning what’s in the way into the way
- Premeditatio Malorum, in Depth
The variants of negative visualization, and how to run each one safely