The best-possible-self exercise

Regularly write a vivid picture of your life going as well as it realistically could.

Why it works

Imagining and writing a detailed best-possible future does two things: it directs attention toward goals and possibilities the pessimistic mind filters out, and it builds positive expectancy by making a good outcome concrete and reachable rather than abstract. Concreteness is what turns vague hope into motivating optimism.

How to do it

  1. Pick a life domain and write, for several minutes, a vivid account of it going as well as realistically possible.
  2. Be concrete and sensory — describe the specific day, not a slogan.
  3. Repeat over several sessions; the practice compounds with repetition.

Evidence

The best-possible-self writing intervention has randomized-trial support for raising positive affect and optimism, including in meta-analytic reviews of positive-psychology interventions, with effects that are real but generally modest. (rct)

Effects are modest and can fade without repetition; a purely fantastical version risks the motivation-sapping effect of positive fantasy.

Sources

  • King (2001), best-possible-self writing; Malouff & Schutte (2017), meta-analysis of best-possible-self interventions

Common mistake

Writing an unrealistic fantasy disconnected from any path to get there. Pure outcome fantasy can reduce drive; keep the best-possible self ambitious but reachable.

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