Align your goals with the developmental task of your season
Goals that match what your season is asking produce energy; goals that fight the season drain it.
Why it works
Energy and motivation are partly a function of psychological-developmental alignment: when a goal matches the natural task of the current life stage, there is often intrinsic drive available. When a goal fights the season (exploring when you are meant to deepen, or committing permanently when you are in an exploratory phase), the effort required is higher and the satisfaction lower.
How to do it
- List your current goals and ask: "Does this goal match or fight my season’s natural task?"
- For goals that fight the season, ask: "Is this genuinely timely for me, or am I borrowing from a different season’s playbook?"
- Add at least one goal that is clearly seasonal — one that serves what this stage is actually asking of you.
- Grant yourself permission to set aside season-fighting goals temporarily, rather than grinding against them.
Evidence
Self-determination theory supports the idea that intrinsically motivated, personally congruent goals produce more sustained effort and wellbeing than goals pursued from external pressure. (observational)
The specific seasons application is a practitioner inference from developmental theory; the broader principle of value-congruent goal setting is well supported.
Sources
- Deci & Ryan (1985), self-determination theory — intrinsic vs extrinsic motivation
Common mistake
Treating all seasons as equally appropriate for all goals — trying to build a legacy project in a season of exploration, or exploring widely in a season that is calling for depth and commitment.
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More practices for Seasons of Life
- Identify your current season honestly
Name the season you are actually in — not the one you want to be in or the one others expect.
- Navigate season transitions — the gap is normal and necessary
The confusion and loss of meaning between seasons is structural, not personal failure.
- Match your self-care to what your current season demands
Spring requires stimulus and novelty; autumn requires depth and consolidation — what restores you changes.
- Engage generativity — the natural work of midlife and later seasons
Midlife and later seasons are calling for contribution, mentorship, and transmission — not just personal achievement.
- Review whether your key relationships are season-appropriate
Some relationships that sustained you in a past season may be misaligned with your current one — and vice versa.
- Write a brief narrative of your season to make it coherent
People who can tell a coherent story about their life stage navigate it more effectively than those who cannot.