Use a comfortable, sustainable position
Sit or recline in a posture you can hold without strain, so physical effort does not keep arousal up.
Why it works
Muscular effort and discomfort feed proprioceptive signals that the brain can read as tension or threat. A relaxed, supported posture removes that input, lowering the baseline the relaxation response has to overcome. Comfort is functional here, not indulgent.
How to do it
- Sit in a supportive chair or recline, letting your weight be held.
- Relax the obvious holding spots — jaw, shoulders, hands.
- If lying down makes you sleep instead of relax, sit upright instead.
Evidence
A comfortable position is another of Benson’s described elements, consistent with the well-established link between residual muscle tension and felt arousal. (mechanistic)
Comfort supports the response; it does not by itself elicit it. The repetition and passivity remain primary.
Common mistake
Forcing a rigid, "correct" meditation posture that creates strain, which quietly keeps the nervous system activated the whole session.
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More practices for The Relaxation Response, Made Practical
- Anchor attention on a repeated focus word
Silently repeat a single neutral word, sound, or short phrase to give attention one undemanding thing to hold.
- Adopt a passive attitude toward intruding thoughts
When thoughts arrive, let them pass without judgment and return to the anchor — no fighting, no scoring.
- Set a quiet, low-stimulus environment
Reduce external input so the nervous system has less to react to while the response forms.
- Pair the anchor with slow breathing
Attach your focus word to a slow, easy breath to add a direct physiological lever for calm.
- Practice once or twice daily
Elicit the response on a regular schedule so calm becomes a trainable default, not a rescue tool.