Coaching practices for Action Planning After a Loss
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- My plans hold up fine until something throws them off
- In the calm beforehand I know exactly what the smart move is, but the instant the loss is actually staring at me the panic takes the wheel and I do the fearful thing every time
- Once the hard thing is over I just want to bury it and never think about it again
- There’s this clutching dread that takes over the instant a loss is on the line and just runs me on autopilot
- It’s always the same thing that knocks me off
Practices that may help
- Plan for obstacles with coping plans
Anticipate the specific obstacles most likely to block your plan and pre-decide your response to each.
Action Planning - Pre-commit to a rule before the loss is live
Decide your action in a cool moment so the hot, loss-averse moment cannot hijack it.
Loss Aversion, Made Practical - Review what happened after the event to refine the next cope ahead
Compare how you actually coped to your plan — the gap is your next training target.
Cope Ahead: DBT’s Method for Preparing for Difficult Situations - Name the feeling to defuse the reflex
Labeling "this is loss aversion talking" turns an automatic reflex into a choice.
Loss Aversion, Made Practical - Use if–then commitments for predictable barriers
Pre-plan your response to the specific situations most likely to derail the action.
Committed Action, Made Practical - Run brief after-action reviews without blame
After any significant outcome — success or failure — ask four questions together as a team.
Psychological Safety in Teams - Task 3: Adjust to a world without the person
Actively develop new skills, roles, and identity elements to navigate the changed life.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Apply the AAR to successes, not only setbacks
Reviewing what actually caused a win produces replicable insight; reviewing only failures produces only loss-avoidance.
After-Action Review: The US Army’s Tool for Continuous Learning - Zoom out from the single loss to the aggregate
A loss looks catastrophic in isolation and trivial across the whole portfolio of your life.
Loss Aversion, Made Practical - Debrief and repair after the conflict is over
The conversation after the fight -- done calmly -- is where lasting repair happens.
Repair Attempts: Gottman's Key to Surviving Conflict in Relationships
Related concerns
- The Action Method After A Loss
Decide your action in a cool moment so the hot, loss-averse moment cannot hijack it.
Pre-commit to a rule before the loss is live
- Deliberate Constraints After A Loss
Decide your action in a cool moment so the hot, loss-averse moment cannot hijack it.
- If Then Planning After A Loss
If–then plans (also called implementation intentions) specify in advance how you will respond to the specific situations that typically derail your goals: "If situation X occurs, then I will do Y." A meta-analysis of 94 studies found a medium-to-large effect on goal attainment — one of the most reliable single techniques in goal-setting research.
- Situation Selection After A Loss
Situation selection is James Gross’s most upstream emotion regulation strategy: deliberately choosing which situations to enter or avoid based on the emotional consequences they are likely to produce. Because it prevents unwanted emotions from arising rather than managing them after the fact, it is the most efficient regulatory strategy — and the most underused.
- The Not To Do List After A Loss
The not-to-do list is a set of behaviors, tasks, and commitments you commit to stopping or refusing — permanently. Tim Ferriss argues that elimination is more valuable than optimization because low-leverage activities consume time that no amount of efficiency can recover. The approach is largely practitioner advice backed by mechanistic reasoning about opportunity cost and attention.
- Action Planning After A Setback
Anticipate the specific obstacles most likely to block your plan and pre-decide your response to each.
Plan for obstacles with coping plans
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