Coaching practices for The Not to Do List After a Loss

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• I keep telling myself I’ll cut back on the things that drain me, but every single time the moment comes I cave and say yes again
• The moment the lights go out my brain starts running tomorrow’s to-do list on a loop
• There’s this clutching dread that takes over the instant a loss is on the line and just runs me on autopilot
• This one loss feels like the end of the world when I stare right at it, and I keep checking it obsessively, which only makes it worse
• In the calm beforehand I know exactly what the smart move is, but the instant the loss is actually staring at me the panic takes the wheel and I do the fearful thing every time

Practices that may help

1. The Not-To-Do List
   The not-to-do list is a set of behaviors, tasks, and commitments you commit to stopping or refusing — permanently. Tim Ferriss argues that elimination is more valuable than optimization because low-leverage activities consume time that no amount of efficiency can recover. The approach is largely practitioner advice backed by mechanistic reasoning about opportunity cost and attention.
2. Write and commit to a standing not-to-do list
   Turn elimination candidates into an explicit, reviewed list of permanent refusals.
   The Not-To-Do List
3. Offload cognitive load with a bedtime worry journal
   Write tomorrow’s to-do list and any intrusive worries before bed — externalized thoughts stop competing for attention at sleep onset.
   The Wind-Down Routine: Engineering Your Path to Sleep
4. Name the feeling to defuse the reflex
   Labeling "this is loss aversion talking" turns an automatic reflex into a choice.
   Loss Aversion, Made Practical
5. Zoom out from the single loss to the aggregate
   A loss looks catastrophic in isolation and trivial across the whole portfolio of your life.
   Loss Aversion, Made Practical
6. Pre-commit to a rule before the loss is live
   Decide your action in a cool moment so the hot, loss-averse moment cannot hijack it.
   Loss Aversion, Made Practical
7. Work from a closed daily list
   Write today’s task list before the day begins, then refuse to add new items to it.
   Do It Tomorrow, Made Practical
8. Apply the AAR to successes, not only setbacks
   Reviewing what actually caused a win produces replicable insight; reviewing only failures produces only loss-avoidance.
   After-Action Review: The US Army’s Tool for Continuous Learning
9. End each day with a progress review
   A brief daily progress review closes the day on what moved, not on what remains undone.
   The Progress Principle: Why Small Wins Fuel Motivation
10. Review process goal execution separately from outcomes after each performance
    Evaluate how well you executed your process goals independently of whether you won or lost.
    Process Goals, Made Practical

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