Coaching practices for Agency Communion Narrative
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- My whole story is achievement, achievement, achievement
- By now I’ve already decided why they did it
- When I replay this in my own head I always land on the same tidy story, and some part of me suspects I’m protecting myself
- We used to have our own little language
- I handed this to "the team" without naming one clear owner, and now everyone assumes someone else has it
Practices that may help
- Balance agency and communion themes in your story
Check whether your life narrative is weighted toward self-expansion (agency) or connection (communion).
Narrative Identity, Made Practical - Notice and question the story you’ve already told yourself
Between the missed commitment and the conversation, you have built a narrative — and that narrative will leak into the conversation.
Crucial Accountability: Holding People to Commitments That Matter - Include a trusted other in high-stakes AARs
Self-conducted AARs have blind spots; a peer or coach who was not inside the event sees the causal story differently.
After-Action Review: The US Army’s Tool for Continuous Learning - Cultivating complicity: shared secret aliveness
Build a private world of in-jokes, gestures, and references that only you two share.
Mating in Captivity: Sustaining Desire in Long-Term Relationships - Set clear, single-point accountability
One named owner, an agreed standard, and a check-in cadence set up front — not nagging.
Effective Delegation, Made Practical - Narrative Identity, Made Practical
Dan McAdams’ narrative identity theory holds that identity itself is a personal myth — an internalized, evolving story that integrates your past, present, and imagined future into a coherent sense of self. The structure and tone of that story (whether it moves toward redemption or contamination, agency or communion) predicts psychological well-being, and the story can be deliberately revised. Evidence is primarily observational but robustly consistent. - Let the report own the agenda
It’s their meeting — they bring what matters to them, and you adapt to it.
Effective One-on-Ones, Made Practical - Create a testimony document
NET produces a written testimony of the person’s life — a document that the person and therapist co-author and that the person keeps.
Narrative Exposure Therapy (NET): Weaving Trauma Into a Coherent Life Story - Definitional Ceremonies and Outsider Witnesses
Invite meaningful others to witness and retell the new story — being known differently by others consolidates the new identity.
Narrative Therapy: Rewriting the Stories That Define You - Landscape of Identity and Action Questions
Use two question types to map both what the person DID (action) and what that reveals about who they ARE (identity).
Narrative Therapy: Rewriting the Stories That Define You
Related concerns
- How Stories Shape Identity
Dan McAdams’ narrative identity theory holds that identity itself is a personal myth — an internalized, evolving story that integrates your past, present, and imagined future into a coherent sense of self. The structure and tone of that story (whether it moves toward redemption or contamination, agency or communion) predicts psychological well-being, and the story can be deliberately revised. Evidence is primarily observational but robustly consistent.
- Narrative Identity As A Caregiver
Dan McAdams’ narrative identity theory holds that identity itself is a personal myth — an internalized, evolving story that integrates your past, present, and imagined future into a coherent sense of self. The structure and tone of that story (whether it moves toward redemption or contamination, agency or communion) predicts psychological well-being, and the story can be deliberately revised. Evidence is primarily observational but robustly consistent.
- Narrative Identity At Work
Dan McAdams’ narrative identity theory holds that identity itself is a personal myth — an internalized, evolving story that integrates your past, present, and imagined future into a coherent sense of self. The structure and tone of that story (whether it moves toward redemption or contamination, agency or communion) predicts psychological well-being, and the story can be deliberately revised. Evidence is primarily observational but robustly consistent.
- Narrative Identity During Conflict
Identify the parts of your self-narrative that are contradictory or no longer true.
Test your story for coherence and credibility
- Narrative Identity For My Teenager
Dan McAdams’ narrative identity theory holds that identity itself is a personal myth — an internalized, evolving story that integrates your past, present, and imagined future into a coherent sense of self. The structure and tone of that story (whether it moves toward redemption or contamination, agency or communion) predicts psychological well-being, and the story can be deliberately revised. Evidence is primarily observational but robustly consistent.
- Narrative Identity On A Budget
Dan McAdams’ narrative identity theory holds that identity itself is a personal myth — an internalized, evolving story that integrates your past, present, and imagined future into a coherent sense of self. The structure and tone of that story (whether it moves toward redemption or contamination, agency or communion) predicts psychological well-being, and the story can be deliberately revised. Evidence is primarily observational but robustly consistent.
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