Coaching practices for Alison Wood Brooks Excitement
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- When someone I love is excited about something, I want to actually light up with them and draw it out instead of just saying “nice” and moving on
- Right before the big moment I’m wired and shaking and I keep telling myself to calm down and relax, which never works and just makes me more frantic that I can’t
- Right before I go on, my heart is pounding and my hands are shaking and I read all of it as a sign I’m about to fall apart
- We’re comfortable and we still do plenty together, but it’s the same loop every week
- We still love each other but every week is the same loop
Practices that may help
- Respond active-constructively
Meet good news with genuine, engaged enthusiasm — ask questions and savor it together.
Active-Constructive Responding, Made Practical - Reappraise anxiety as excitement before high-stakes performance
Tell yourself "I’m excited" rather than "I’m nervous" — the physiology is the same, the performance effect is not.
Choking Under Pressure, Made Practical - Reappraise physiological arousal as activation, not anxiety
Tell yourself "I’m excited" rather than "I’m nervous" — the physiology is identical; the label changes performance.
The Clutch State: Performing Under Pressure - Regularly share novel and enjoyable activities
Do new things together — not only comfortable or habitual ones.
Relationship Maintenance Behaviors - Do novel, moderately challenging activities together
New and slightly difficult shared experiences restore the self-expansion that keeps closeness alive.
Self-Expansion Model: How Relationships Grow (and Stagnate) Us - Practise including the other person in your self-concept
Close relationships develop when you genuinely incorporate the other’s perspectives and resources into how you think — not just spend time with them.
Self-Expansion Model: How Relationships Grow (and Stagnate) Us - Use a body double for low-initiation tasks
Work in the physical or virtual presence of another person to borrow their initiation momentum.
Task Initiation: Overcoming the Start Problem - Know your two selves (Adam I and Adam II)
Distinguish the self that wants to build and achieve from the self that wants to be good.
The Eulogy Virtues: Building a Life of Character - Reinterpret physiological arousal as readiness, not threat
Anxiety before a challenging task is physiologically identical to excitement — the label you apply determines whether it helps or hurts.
Social Cognitive Theory - Learn from suffering rather than managing it away
Let a period of difficulty become a curriculum — ask what it is teaching you about yourself.
The Eulogy Virtues: Building a Life of Character
Related concerns
- Anxiety And Encouragement
Prevention-focused anxiety is reduced most effectively by taking the vigilant action that addresses the threat, not by telling yourself nothing is wrong.
Manage prevention-focus anxiety through action, not reassurance
- Anxiety As Performance Fuel
Use targeted techniques to reduce arousal when anxiety or over-activation is undermining performance.
De-activation Strategies for Over-Arousal
- Anxiety Reappraisal Performance
Reinterpret physiological arousal as excitement rather than anxiety — they share the same physiology.
Arousal Reappraisal: "I’m Excited, Not Anxious"
- Anxiety To Excitement Reappraisal
Reinterpret physiological arousal as excitement rather than anxiety — they share the same physiology.
- Anxiety To Excitement Reframing
Reinterpret physiological arousal as excitement rather than anxiety — they share the same physiology.
- Anxiety To Excitement Sport Psychology
Tell yourself "I’m excited" rather than "I’m nervous" — the physiology is identical; the label changes performance.
Reappraise physiological arousal as activation, not anxiety
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