Coaching practices for All or Nothing Thinking Harm

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  • If it’s not perfect it’s a total failure to me
  • One bad moment and I’m off
  • With this one thing, "just a little" never stays little
  • I’ve got the exact thought written down now, and I can tell it’s skewed somehow, but I want to pin down precisely which kind of twist it is
  • One thing goes wrong and it instantly becomes a life sentence

Practices that may help

  1. All-or-nothing thinking (black-and-white thinking)
    Evaluate situations and yourself in absolute, binary terms — perfect or failure, always or never.
    Cognitive Distortions: The Thinking Errors Behind Anxiety and Depression
  2. Spotting cognitive distortions
    Learn the recurring thinking errors — catastrophizing, all-or-nothing, mind-reading — to label them on sight.
    Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Made Practical
  3. Use "none" when "some" is harder
    A clean zero is often easier to sustain than a tightly rationed "a little."
    Bright-Line Rules: When "None" Beats "Some"
  4. Identify the cognitive distortion at work
    Label the type of distortion — all-or-nothing, catastrophizing, mind-reading — to reduce its grip.
    Cognitive Restructuring: The CBT Method for Changing Unhelpful Thoughts
  5. Overgeneralization
    Draw a sweeping conclusion from one or a few negative events.
    Cognitive Distortions: The Thinking Errors Behind Anxiety and Depression
  6. Assess risk and benefit on separate scales before comparing
    Estimate risk and benefit independently — don’t let the same feeling drive both.
    The Affect Heuristic — When Feelings Substitute for Facts
  7. Stay with sensation without flooding (titrate)
    Build the capacity to feel a sensation in tolerable doses instead of numbing or being swept away.
    Interoception, Explained
  8. Apply the vaccination model: compare population outcomes, not individual paths
    Ask: if 1,000 people faced this choice, what’s the total harm from universal inaction vs. universal action?
    Omission Bias — Why Doing Nothing Feels Safer Than Acting
  9. Name the cognitive distortion
    Match the thought to a known thinking trap — catastrophizing, mind-reading, all-or-nothing.
    Cognitive Reframing, Made Practical
  10. Catch the "hot" automatic thought
    Identify the single thought that caused the most distress — the hot thought — not a list of thoughts.
    The Thought Record: CBT’s Core Self-Examination Tool

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