Coaching practices for Am I a Maximizer

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  • I don’t even notice I’ve spiraled until I’m forty reviews deep and exhausted, telling myself I’m just being careful
  • I made my choice and it’s honestly fine, but my mind won’t stop circling back to the one that got away and how it might’ve been better
  • I pour the same agonizing effort into picking a toothpaste as into a real life decision, and by the time something that matters comes along my capacity to decide well is already spent on trivia.
  • Even after I decide, I can’t let it rest
  • I say "this is yours" but the moment it starts wobbling I swoop in and take it back, and I’m realizing that hovering and rescuing tells people they were never really trusted to own it

Practices that may help

  1. Spot your maximizer tells
    Learn the signals that you’re maximizing a decision that doesn’t deserve it.
    Satisficing vs. Maximizing: When “Good Enough” Wins
  2. Satisficing vs. Maximizing: When “Good Enough” Wins
    Satisficing — a term coined by Herbert Simon — means choosing the first option that meets your criteria, while maximizing means searching for the best possible option. Research by Barry Schwartz and colleagues found that people who habitually maximize tend to make objectively slightly better choices yet report lower satisfaction, more regret, and worse well-being — so for most everyday decisions, "good enough" wins.
  3. Practice gratitude for what you chose
    Counter maximizer regret by actively appreciating the option you took.
    Satisficing vs. Maximizing: When “Good Enough” Wins
  4. Choose maximize or satisfice per decision
    Reserve maximizing for the few high-stakes, lasting choices; satisfice the rest.
    Satisficing vs. Maximizing: When “Good Enough” Wins
  5. Satisfice instead of maximize
    Choose the option that meets your criteria rather than searching for the theoretically best one.
    The Mindset of Enough: Contentment Without Complacency
  6. Invest in people’s ownership: give stakes and stay back
    Multipliers give full ownership and hold people responsible; Diminishers over-resource and under-trust.
    Multipliers: How Leaders Amplify the Intelligence Around Them
  7. Multipliers: How Leaders Amplify the Intelligence Around Them
    Liz Wiseman’s research found that the best leaders — Multipliers — extract far more capability from their people than average leaders do, not by being smarter, but by creating conditions where others’ intelligence can fully operate. Diminishers, the opposite, may be brilliant and well-intentioned but systematically suppress the thinking around them. The research is interview-based across multiple organizations — observational, not experimental — but the mechanisms align with well-established research on autonomy, self-efficacy, and psychological safety.
  8. Become a talent magnet: attract and deploy people at their best
    Multipliers find what people do naturally well and put them in conditions where that genius is essential.
    Multipliers: How Leaders Amplify the Intelligence Around Them
  9. Modify and Magnify
    Ask: what happens if you make an element bigger, smaller, faster, slower, stronger, or weaker?
    SCAMPER: A Systematic Creativity Technique
  10. Resist the pull to optimize parameters when structure is the problem
    Notice when you are adjusting numbers and ask whether the structure is the actual problem.
    Leverage Points

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