Coaching practices for Anticipating Emotions

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • It’s never the logistics that wreck me, it’s the feeling
  • I can feel something hard coming but I keep it deliberately fuzzy in my mind because looking straight at it is uncomfortable
  • My blowups feel like they come out of nowhere, but I’m starting to notice it’s always the same setups
  • I won’t let myself look forward to good things in case they don’t pan out
  • There are situations I know are coming where I’ll be gritting my teeth to hold a feeling down

Practices that may help

  1. Name the emotions the situation will likely produce
    Predict which feelings will show up and at what intensity — so they are not surprises when they arrive.
    Cope Ahead: DBT’s Method for Preparing for Difficult Situations
  2. Describe the difficult situation specifically and realistically
    Spell out the scenario you are anticipating — who, what, when — without minimizing or catastrophizing.
    Cope Ahead: DBT’s Method for Preparing for Difficult Situations
  3. Map your personal emotion triggers
    Know which situations, times of day, and states reliably trigger your most intense emotions — so you can intervene upstream.
    The 90-Second Rule, Made Practical
  4. Anticipatory savoring
    Deliberately look forward to a future good event to extract joy before it arrives.
    Savoring: Getting More From the Good
  5. Replace suppression with upstream reappraisal
    Shift to reappraisal — changing how you think about the event before it generates the emotion you would otherwise suppress.
    The Costs of Expressive Suppression, Made Practical
  6. Observe the emotion without feeding it
    When a strong emotion hits, watch it without adding the story that keeps it going.
    The 90-Second Rule, Made Practical
  7. Empathy
    Accurately read and take seriously what other people are feeling.
    Emotional Intelligence, Made Practical
  8. Track your emotions over time
    Log feelings briefly across days to see the patterns and triggers you would otherwise miss.
    Emotional Granularity: Precision as a Regulation Skill
  9. Mindfulness of the current emotion
    Observe the emotion as a wave passing through — without judging it, feeding it, or running from it.
    DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical
  10. Show up — turn toward difficult emotions
    Face difficult feelings with curiosity rather than suppressing, avoiding, or being swept into them.
    Emotional Agility, Made Practical

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