Coaching practices for There Are Situations I Know Are Coming Where I'll Be Gritting My Teeth to Hold a Feeling Down and I'm Tired of Fighting the Emotion After It's Already Flooded Me I Want to Get Ahead of it to Change How I'm Reading the Situation Before it Generates the Feeling I'd Otherwise Have to Spend the Whole Time Hiding

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• There are situations I know are coming where I’ll be gritting my teeth to hold a feeling down
• The moment a hard feeling rises I clamp down against it and brace, trying to push it away
• I spend so much energy trying to push down or get rid of what I feel, and it just comes back stronger
• It’s never the logistics that wreck me, it’s the feeling
• Every instinct I have right now is telling me to cancel, to hide, to not pick up the phone

Practices that may help

1. Replace suppression with upstream reappraisal
   Shift to reappraisal — changing how you think about the event before it generates the emotion you would otherwise suppress.
   The Costs of Expressive Suppression, Made Practical
2. Expand into difficult feelings rather than contracting away
   When discomfort arrives, consciously make room for it rather than tightening against it.
   Psychological Flexibility, Made Practical
3. Acceptance (willingness)
   Make room for unwanted feelings instead of struggling against them, so they stop running the show.
   Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Made Practical
4. Name the emotions the situation will likely produce
   Predict which feelings will show up and at what intensity — so they are not surprises when they arrive.
   Cope Ahead: DBT’s Method for Preparing for Difficult Situations
5. Opposite action
   When an emotion doesn’t fit the facts or is unhelpful, act opposite to its urge — fully and wholeheartedly.
   DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical
6. Show up — turn toward difficult emotions
   Face difficult feelings with curiosity rather than suppressing, avoiding, or being swept into them.
   Emotional Agility, Made Practical
7. Check the facts first
   Decide whether the emotion actually fits the situation before doing anything about it.
   Opposite Action: Acting Against the Emotion’s Urge
8. A — Allow the experience to be as it is
   Let what is present be here, without pushing it away, numbing it, or elaborating it.
   RAIN Meditation: Tara Brach’s Four-Step Practice
9. Mindfulness of the current emotion
   Observe the emotion as a wave passing through — without judging it, feeding it, or running from it.
   DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical
10. RAIN — Allow the experience to be here
    Let the feeling exist as it is for a moment, without pushing it away or feeding it.
    Radical Acceptance, Made Practical

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