Coaching practices for Anticipation of Interaction Liking
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I’m about to walk into a new job and a new neighborhood, and I’m already bracing for it to be awkward, rehearsing how they probably won’t take to me
- There’s something good on the calendar but I ignore it completely until the day arrives, so the whole stretch of looking forward to it
- I keep trying to win people over with one big impressive gesture and it never seems to stick
- I keep waiting to "meet the right people" but honestly my days are built so I barely cross paths with anyone new the same way twice
- I won’t let myself look forward to good things in case they don’t pan out
Practices that may help
- Use the anticipation of interaction to create liking before meeting
Knowing you will interact with someone in the future makes you evaluate them more positively before it happens.
The Propinquity Effect (Leon Festinger) - Savor experiences before they happen through anticipation
Spend time looking forward to a positive event in vivid detail — the anticipation itself is a source of well-being.
Savoring the Moment, Made Practical - Show up consistently to build familiarity and trust over time
Regular, low-key presence across time increases liking without any single memorable moment.
The Mere Exposure Effect, Made Practical - Design your daily environment to create repeated exposure
You cannot become friends with people you never run into — engineer the run-ins.
The Propinquity Effect (Leon Festinger) - Anticipatory savoring
Deliberately look forward to a future good event to extract joy before it arrives.
Savoring: Getting More From the Good - Manage the gap between perceived and actual similarity
We often like people because we think they're like us — and later discover the gap. Plan for the update.
The Similarity-Attraction Effect (Donn Byrne) - Surface genuine shared values and experiences early
Finding real common ground accelerates liking more than surface-level agreement.
The Similarity-Attraction Effect (Donn Byrne) - Respond active-constructively
Meet good news with genuine, engaged enthusiasm — ask questions and savor it together.
Active-Constructive Responding, Made Practical - Anticipate good experiences in advance — and savor them afterward
A good experience provides happiness three times: in anticipation, during, and in memory.
Time Affluence Practices (Cassie Holmes) - Liking
We say yes to people we like — and similarity, compliments, and cooperation grow liking.
Cialdini’s Principles of Influence
Related concerns
- Familiarity And Liking Psychology
The mere exposure effect, established by Robert Zajonc in the 1960s, is the finding that people tend to develop a preference for things simply because they have encountered them before — without any positive experience or deliberate evaluation. The effect is robust across stimuli types and cultures, though it is stronger for novel stimuli and weakens when exposure becomes monotonous or the initial reaction to the stimulus is negative.
- Familiarity Liking
We say yes to people we like — and similarity, compliments, and cooperation grow liking.
Liking
- The Similarity Attraction Effect Donn Byrne When Starting Out
Donn Byrne's research established that perceived attitude similarity reliably increases interpersonal attraction across a wide range of conditions — a finding replicated hundreds of times. The effect is mediated by several mechanisms: similar others validate our worldview, signal lower social risk, and make interaction feel easier. The implication for friendship is double-edged: similarity is a genuine bond-builder, but it also drives homophily, which narrows social worlds.
- Anticipation And Happiness
Deliberately look forward to a future good event to extract joy before it arrives.
Anticipatory savoring
- Best Way To Tell A New Friend Id Like To Date Her
Sharing something true about yourself gives the other person a target to match.
Use self-disclosure to invite similarity discovery
- Donn Byrne Attraction Research
Donn Byrne's research established that perceived attitude similarity reliably increases interpersonal attraction across a wide range of conditions — a finding replicated hundreds of times. The effect is mediated by several mechanisms: similar others validate our worldview, signal lower social risk, and make interaction feel easier. The implication for friendship is double-edged: similarity is a genuine bond-builder, but it also drives homophily, which narrows social worlds.
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