Coaching practices for Anxiety From Should

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• There’s a duty I’ve been dropping the ball on and the guilt is gnawing at me nonstop
• My head is full of "shoulds" that drive me with guilt all day, and I can’t tell which ones I actually believe versus which I just swallowed whole from my parents or the world
• I spend my days bracing for the next wave of it, scanning my body, dreading the moment it shows up
• What I’m actually terrified of isn’t out there in the world
• The instant I feel my heart skip or my chest tighten, I’m sure something is really wrong with me, and the fear of the sensation spins it into something bigger

Practices that may help

1. Reduce ought-self discrepancy through concrete action, not reassurance
   When anxiety comes from failing an obligation, the fastest relief is doing one specific thing that addresses the gap — not talking about why it’s okay that you haven’t.
   Self-Discrepancy Theory, Made Practical
2. Audit the ought self for genuine versus internalized obligations
   Examine each "should" in your ought self and determine whether it is truly yours — or someone else’s expectation you absorbed.
   Self-Discrepancy Theory, Made Practical
3. Run toward the feeling
   Actively invite more of the anxiety rather than waiting nervously for it to pass.
   The DARE Response to Anxiety, Made Practical
4. Add interoceptive rungs for bodily fear
   If you fear the physical sensations of anxiety itself, include exposures that deliberately induce them.
   The Fear Ladder: Graded Exposure Made Practical
5. Interoceptive awareness
   Practice noticing and naming body sensations neutrally, so they stop reading as alarms.
   The Anxiety Toolkit, Made Practical
6. Use reflective simulation to convert anxiety into planning
   Mentally walk through what could go wrong — then convert each potential failure into a specific preparation action.
   Defensive Pessimism, Made Practical
7. Manage prevention-focus anxiety through action, not reassurance
   Prevention-focused anxiety is reduced most effectively by taking the vigilant action that addresses the threat, not by telling yourself nothing is wrong.
   Regulatory Focus Theory: Promotion vs Prevention Thinking
8. Allow the sensations without resisting
   Let the physical feelings of anxiety be present instead of bracing against them.
   The DARE Response to Anxiety, Made Practical
9. Recalibrate arousal as readiness, not threat
   Reinterpret pre-performance anxiety as energy and readiness rather than evidence of inadequacy.
   Mastery Experiences
10. The 5-4-3-2-1 grounding technique
    Name five things you see, four you hear, three you feel, two you smell, one you taste.
    The Anxiety Toolkit, Made Practical

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