Coaching practices for Appreciate Who You Have
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I still genuinely respect and appreciate my partner, but somewhere along the way I stopped actually saying it out loud
- I notice all the things my partner does that annoy me and almost never say out loud the things I’m grateful for
- Looking back, I see how much of who I am came from specific people
- I catch myself treating the people and things I love like they’ll always just be there, and I clutch and take them for granted in the same breath
- I take my health, my safe home, water from the tap completely for granted
Practices that may help
- Express fondness and admiration specifically
Name what you genuinely respect and appreciate about your partner — out loud and specifically.
The 5-to-1 Positivity Ratio in Relationships - Establish a daily specific appreciation practice
Name one concrete, genuine thing you appreciate about your partner every day.
The Magic Relationship Ratio: Gottman's 5-to-1 Principle - Acknowledge the people who made you who you are
Name and express gratitude to the specific people whose influence shaped your life.
Life Review and Reminiscence Therapy - Contemplation of impermanence
Hold steadily that everything you have — including the people you love — is on loan and temporary.
Premeditatio Malorum, in Depth - Take the perspective of someone without what you have
Vividly inhabit the perspective of someone who lacks something you currently take for granted.
Negative Visualization for Gratitude: The Stoic Path to Appreciation - Impermanence awareness practice
Deliberately notice the transience of a good experience to deepen your engagement with it while it’s here.
Wabi-Sabi: Finding Beauty in Imperfection - Mental subtraction
Imagine a good thing in your life had never happened, then return to the fact that it did.
Gratitude Journaling, Done Well - Recognize and reinvest in deepened relationships
Notice which relationships grew closer through the hardship, and deliberately invest back in them.
Benefit-Finding: Locating Meaning and Growth in Adversity - Trace the source of each blessing
For each blessing, name the specific person, circumstance, or choice that produced it.
Counting Blessings: The Psychology of Grateful Reflection - Account for what you owe others
Regularly recall, by name, the people and gifts that made you who you are.
Meditations, as Marcus Practiced It
Related concerns
- When Counting Blessings Gratitude Attribution
For each blessing, name the specific person, circumstance, or choice that produced it.
Trace the source of each blessing
- Appreciation Of Life
Use the awareness that pleasant things are temporary to intensify genuine appreciation for them while they are here.
The impermanence gratitude turn
- How To Appreciate What You Have
Imagine a good thing in your life had never happened, then return to the fact that it did.
Mental subtraction
- Not Taking Life For Granted
Vividly inhabit the perspective of someone who lacks something you currently take for granted.
Take the perspective of someone without what you have
- Ancestor Gratitude
Deliberately acknowledge the accumulated sacrifices and gifts of those who came before you.
Ancestor gratitude: receiving the long past
- Appreciate Before Change
Use the awareness that pleasant things are temporary to intensify genuine appreciation for them while they are here.
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