Coaching practices for Are Words From Sports War Hunting and Fighting Inappropriate for the Workplace

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• The motivational words from the books and the other athletes fall flat for me
• I’ve told my people a hundred times they can disagree with me, but they still don’t
• In the heat of an argument the sharpest possible words just fly out of my mouth before I can stop them, and an hour later I’m sick about what I said
• Our meetings are all polite nods and "sounds good," and then the real opinions come out afterward in side conversations and quiet eye-rolls
• We have our own little shortcuts and looks that work fine day to day, but the second we’re upset those same phrases get read totally wrong

Practices that may help

1. Develop personal cue words that have real meaning for you
   Build self-talk cues from your own best performance experiences — not from a generic list.
   Self-Talk Strategies, Made Practical
2. Teach speak-up skills, not just encourage speaking up
   Give team members specific language for raising concerns, not just permission to raise them.
   Psychological Safety in Teams
3. The speech audit: THINK before you speak
   Before speaking in a charged moment, check whether the words are True, Helpful, Inspiring, Necessary, Kind.
   Ahimsa: Non-Violence as a Daily Practice
4. Engage in productive ideological conflict
   Teams that avoid conflict don’t avoid disagreement — they bury it, where it grows into resentment and bad decisions.
   The Five Dysfunctions of a Team, Made Practical
5. Reduce reliance on relationship shorthand in high-stakes moments
   Save the code language for low-stakes moments; use full sentences when it matters.
   Closeness-Communication Bias
6. Be Gentle: no attacks, threats, or expressions of contempt
   Say what you need to say without aggression, sarcasm, or contempt — even when you are hurt or angry.
   GIVE: DBT’s Skill for Preserving Relationships During Difficult Conversations
7. Find alternatives to expressive suppression in high-stakes moments
   When you must manage what you show, use reappraisal or slow your breath rather than white-knuckling the expression down.
   Cognitive Reappraisal vs. Suppression, Made Practical
8. Use Competing when speed or safety matters more than buy-in
   Competing — high assertive, low cooperative — is appropriate when the decision is urgent, high-stakes, and not open for debate.
   The Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI)
9. Use language mirroring in writing — match their words, not yours
   When someone describes a problem in their own words, use those words — not your substitute vocabulary.
   Mirroring and Matching, Made Practical
10. Disagree with your manager constructively
    State your disagreement clearly, give your reasoning, and then commit to the decision — without sacrificing either honesty or loyalty.
    Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss

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