Coaching practices for Argument Mapping with My Partner
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- I’m curious about my partner but I give almost nothing of myself back
- I want my partner to actually see the person I’m trying to grow into, but I’ve never put it into words even for myself
- My partner is going through a huge change right now
- I actually do know what my partner is carrying this week, but I never reference it in the moment
- I notice I believe things mostly based on who said them
Practices that may help
- Argument Mapping
Argument mapping is the practice of drawing the logical structure of an argument as a diagram — claims, supporting reasons, objections, and rebuttals made spatially explicit. Developed into a pedagogical system by Tim van Gelder, it is one of the few critical-thinking interventions with controlled-study support: students who learned argument mapping showed significantly larger gains in reasoning ability than those in conventional classes. - Share your own inner world to build the map reciprocally
Let your partner map you -- disclose what is actually on your mind, not just the surface.
Love Maps: Knowing Your Partner's Inner World - Mapping your ideal self explicitly
Articulate specifically who your ideal self is — the person you are working toward — so your partner can sculpt toward it rather than guessing.
The Michelangelo Phenomenon: How Partners Sculpt Each Other - Update your love map after major life changes
When life shifts, assume your map is outdated and ask new questions.
Love Maps: Knowing Your Partner's Inner World - Apply the love map in small daily moments
Reference what you know about your partner's inner world in everyday support and conversation.
Love Maps: Knowing Your Partner's Inner World - Evaluate the argument structure, not the source
Map the logic and evaluate it independently of who made the argument.
Argument Mapping - Build and update love maps
Keep a detailed, current map of your partner’s inner world — worries, hopes, history.
The Gottman Method, Made Practical - Map interests for both sides before generating solutions
Write down both parties’ known and inferred interests before proposing anything — the map reveals trades that no single position could.
Interests vs. Positions: The Core of Integrative Negotiation - Coach each other, not just report
Have your partner help problem-solve the obstacle, not only record the miss.
Accountability Partners - Map your partner's current inner world
Know your partner's present worries, stresses, and joys -- not just who they were when you met.
Love Maps: Knowing Your Partner's Inner World
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- Love Maps Knowing Your Partners Inner World During A Big Change
A love map -- John Gottman's term -- is your detailed internal knowledge of your partner's inner world: their hopes, worries, stresses, friends, and daily life. Couples who maintain rich, updated love maps navigate conflict and life transitions with far less friction; the research basis is Gottman's observational couples studies, which are correlational.
- Love Maps Knowing Your Partners Inner World During Conflict
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