Coaching practices for Assertiveness Training with My Team
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- I say the firm thing but my voice goes up at the end like a question, my eyes drop, and I tack on a nervous little laugh
- I’ve told my people a hundred times they can disagree with me, but they still don’t
- I feel like I have to look certain and have all the answers in front of my team, and I’m starting to wonder if that very armor is exactly why none of them will admit when they’re unsure either.
- In our meetings everyone just nods along and the doubts only come out in private afterward, because being the one who pushes back makes you look like you’re not a team player
- I end every meeting with "any thoughts?" and get nothing but nods, then the real objections surface in the hallway afterward
Practices that may help
- Assertiveness Training, Made Practical
Assertiveness training is a set of learnable skills — using I-statements, the broken-record technique, fogging, and saying no without over-justifying — that let you express needs and limits directly without aggression or passivity. It comes out of behavior therapy and social-skills training and has a genuine clinical basis, taught for decades in therapeutic settings. - Match your body to your words
Assertive words undercut by passive body language read as a bluff.
Assertiveness Training, Made Practical - Teach speak-up skills, not just encourage speaking up
Give team members specific language for raising concerns, not just permission to raise them.
Psychological Safety in Teams - Model vulnerability and uncertainty as a leader to accelerate safety
Deliberately share your own uncertainties, mistakes, and questions — it gives permission for others to do the same.
The Four Stages of Psychological Safety - Appoint an explicit devil’s advocate role
Give one person the formal job of arguing against the plan — making dissent structural, not personal.
Red Teaming: Stress-Testing Plans Before They Fail - Invite input explicitly and specifically
Ask for candid input on a specific topic — not "any thoughts?" but "where do you see this plan failing?"
Psychological Safety in Teams - Create safety for experimentation and honest challenge
Make it safe to raise problems, test new ideas, and disagree — before expecting the team to transform.
Transformational Leadership, Made Practical - Frame the work as a learning problem, not an execution problem
Name the uncertainty and interdependence out loud so people expect to learn, not just deliver.
Psychological Safety, Made Practical - Challenge assumptions and invite new thinking
Actively encourage your team to question old ways and generate new approaches.
Transformational Leadership, Made Practical - Diagnose which safety stage your team is currently in
Before intervening, accurately assess whether the deficit is inclusion, learner, contributor, or challenger safety.
The Four Stages of Psychological Safety
Related concerns
- When Four Stages Psychological Safety Diagnose Safety Stage
Before intervening, accurately assess whether the deficit is inclusion, learner, contributor, or challenger safety.
Diagnose which safety stage your team is currently in
- When Transformational Leadership Build Psychological Safety For Transformation
Make it safe to raise problems, test new ideas, and disagree — before expecting the team to transform.
Create safety for experimentation and honest challenge
- Assertiveness Training At Work
Assertiveness training is a set of learnable skills — using I-statements, the broken-record technique, fogging, and saying no without over-justifying — that let you express needs and limits directly without aggression or passivity. It comes out of behavior therapy and social-skills training and has a genuine clinical basis, taught for decades in therapeutic settings.
- Challenge Assumptions Team
Before executing, list the assumptions the plan depends on — then ask which ones would kill it if wrong.
Map and stress-test your key assumptions
- How To Get Team To Speak Up
Give team members specific language for raising concerns, not just permission to raise them.
Teach speak-up skills, not just encourage speaking up
- Psychological Safety In Teams During Conflict
Psychological safety — the shared belief that the team is safe for interpersonal risk-taking — is built through consistent leader behavior: inviting input, responding non-punitively to mistakes, and modeling fallibility. Amy Edmondson’s research links it to learning behaviors and team performance across healthcare, tech, and manufacturing; the causal chain from safety to performance runs through candor and error reporting, not through comfort alone.
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