Coaching practices for Assertiveness Training at Work
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- I say the firm thing but my voice goes up at the end like a question, my eyes drop, and I tack on a nervous little laugh
- I’ve told my people a hundred times they can disagree with me, but they still don’t
- Whenever I need to ask for something or say no, it comes out either as an attack or as me folding completely
- Even when I’ve got the right words, my voice goes shaky and my sentences tilt up into questions, and the apology in my body
- There’s something I need to ask for and I keep rehearsing it and chickening out
Practices that may help
- Assertiveness Training, Made Practical
Assertiveness training is a set of learnable skills — using I-statements, the broken-record technique, fogging, and saying no without over-justifying — that let you express needs and limits directly without aggression or passivity. It comes out of behavior therapy and social-skills training and has a genuine clinical basis, taught for decades in therapeutic settings. - Match your body to your words
Assertive words undercut by passive body language read as a bluff.
Assertiveness Training, Made Practical - Teach speak-up skills, not just encourage speaking up
Give team members specific language for raising concerns, not just permission to raise them.
Psychological Safety in Teams - DEAR MAN for interpersonal effectiveness
A structured script — Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce, Mindful, Appear confident, Negotiate — for asking and saying no.
Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Skills, Made Practical - Appear confident even when you don’t feel it
Maintain eye contact, a level voice, and an upright posture — confidence is performed before it’s felt.
DEAR MAN: DBT’s Skill for Asking for What You Want Effectively - I-Statements: How to Express Yourself Without Triggering Defensiveness
I-statements — communicating from your own experience ("I feel…") rather than making claims about the other person ("you always…") — are among the most widely taught assertiveness skills. The theoretical rationale is solid: describing your own internal state is less likely to trigger defensiveness than evaluating the other person’s behavior. Clinical practice supports them; RCT evidence for I-statements specifically is limited, and poorly executed I-statements (disguised accusations) often backfire. - DEAR MAN: making effective requests
Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce — then Mindful, Appear confident, Negotiate.
DBT Interpersonal Effectiveness: Getting What You Need Without Destroying the Relationship - Appoint an explicit devil’s advocate role
Give one person the formal job of arguing against the plan — making dissent structural, not personal.
Red Teaming: Stress-Testing Plans Before They Fail - FAST: maintaining self-respect in difficult interactions
Fair, no Apologies, Stick to values, Truthful — the self-respect compass for high-pressure conversations.
DBT Interpersonal Effectiveness: Getting What You Need Without Destroying the Relationship - The broken-record technique
Calmly repeat your position without being derailed by arguments or guilt-trips.
Assertiveness Training, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Assertiveness Techniques
Assertiveness training is a set of learnable skills — using I-statements, the broken-record technique, fogging, and saying no without over-justifying — that let you express needs and limits directly without aggression or passivity. It comes out of behavior therapy and social-skills training and has a genuine clinical basis, taught for decades in therapeutic settings.
- Assertiveness Training With Friends
Assertiveness training is a set of learnable skills — using I-statements, the broken-record technique, fogging, and saying no without over-justifying — that let you express needs and limits directly without aggression or passivity. It comes out of behavior therapy and social-skills training and has a genuine clinical basis, taught for decades in therapeutic settings.
- How To Be Assertive
Assertiveness training is a set of learnable skills — using I-statements, the broken-record technique, fogging, and saying no without over-justifying — that let you express needs and limits directly without aggression or passivity. It comes out of behavior therapy and social-skills training and has a genuine clinical basis, taught for decades in therapeutic settings.
- How To Be More Assertive
Assertiveness training is a set of learnable skills — using I-statements, the broken-record technique, fogging, and saying no without over-justifying — that let you express needs and limits directly without aggression or passivity. It comes out of behavior therapy and social-skills training and has a genuine clinical basis, taught for decades in therapeutic settings.
- How To Be More Assertive At Work Examples
Assertiveness training is a set of learnable skills — using I-statements, the broken-record technique, fogging, and saying no without over-justifying — that let you express needs and limits directly without aggression or passivity. It comes out of behavior therapy and social-skills training and has a genuine clinical basis, taught for decades in therapeutic settings.
- Nonverbal Assertiveness
Assertive words undercut by passive body language read as a bluff.
Match your body to your words
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