Coaching practices for Attributional Retraining for My Teenager
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- When something actually goes well I instantly wave it off as luck or good timing or "anyone could’ve done that," so the win never sticks to me
- The "I’m so stupid, I knew I’d blow this" fires off in the same instant the thing goes wrong, before I’ve even thought about it
- There are certain moments
- We keep having the exact same blow-up over the exact same thing, and I’m starting to wonder if my kid genuinely doesn’t know how to handle that moment any other way
- My child has gotten so used to being "the difficult one" that they act like it’s just who they are
Practices that may help
- Attributional Retraining, Made Practical
Attributional retraining is a structured intervention that teaches people to explain failures and setbacks in more controllable, unstable, and specific ways — shifting from "I’m bad at this" to "I need a different strategy." Research, particularly from Carol Dweck and Bernard Weiner, shows this shift reliably improves persistence and academic achievement, with effects that are clinically meaningful in some populations. - Apply attributional retraining to success as well as failure
Attribute genuine successes to stable, internal, and global factors — not to luck or circumstance alone.
Attributional Retraining, Made Practical - Catch and redirect attributions in real time
Notice the attributional sentence in your head as it forms — and replace it before it becomes the stored explanation.
Attributional Retraining, Made Practical - Recognize what is not happening with proactive recognition
Catch the child not misbehaving and name the success explicitly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Take time for training — teach the skill, not just the rule
Children misbehave partly because they don’t know how to do the right thing — teach the skill when everyone is calm.
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen) - Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Identify the lagging skill behind the behavior
Name the cognitive skill the child is missing, not the behavior you want to stop.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Attribute failure to strategy, not ability
Replace "I can’t do this" with "that approach didn’t work here" — ability is fixed in the sentence, strategy is not.
Attributional Retraining, Made Practical - Build the child’s inner wealth narrative over time
Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Learn the three attribution dimensions
Diagnose every failure explanation as internal/external, stable/unstable, and global/specific — then ask which dimension you can shift.
Attributional Retraining, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Attributional Retraining As A Caregiver
Attributional retraining is a structured intervention that teaches people to explain failures and setbacks in more controllable, unstable, and specific ways — shifting from "I’m bad at this" to "I need a different strategy." Research, particularly from Carol Dweck and Bernard Weiner, shows this shift reliably improves persistence and academic achievement, with effects that are clinically meaningful in some populations.
- Attributional Retraining As A Parent
Attributional retraining is a structured intervention that teaches people to explain failures and setbacks in more controllable, unstable, and specific ways — shifting from "I’m bad at this" to "I need a different strategy." Research, particularly from Carol Dweck and Bernard Weiner, shows this shift reliably improves persistence and academic achievement, with effects that are clinically meaningful in some populations.
- Attribution Retraining
Attributional retraining is a structured intervention that teaches people to explain failures and setbacks in more controllable, unstable, and specific ways — shifting from "I’m bad at this" to "I need a different strategy." Research, particularly from Carol Dweck and Bernard Weiner, shows this shift reliably improves persistence and academic achievement, with effects that are clinically meaningful in some populations.
- Attributional Retraining After A Loss
Attributional retraining is a structured intervention that teaches people to explain failures and setbacks in more controllable, unstable, and specific ways — shifting from "I’m bad at this" to "I need a different strategy." Research, particularly from Carol Dweck and Bernard Weiner, shows this shift reliably improves persistence and academic achievement, with effects that are clinically meaningful in some populations.
- Attributional Retraining After A Setback
Attributional retraining is a structured intervention that teaches people to explain failures and setbacks in more controllable, unstable, and specific ways — shifting from "I’m bad at this" to "I need a different strategy." Research, particularly from Carol Dweck and Bernard Weiner, shows this shift reliably improves persistence and academic achievement, with effects that are clinically meaningful in some populations.
- Attributional Retraining At Work
Attributional retraining is a structured intervention that teaches people to explain failures and setbacks in more controllable, unstable, and specific ways — shifting from "I’m bad at this" to "I need a different strategy." Research, particularly from Carol Dweck and Bernard Weiner, shows this shift reliably improves persistence and academic achievement, with effects that are clinically meaningful in some populations.
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