Coaching practices for Awareness of Urges

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • The urges seem to come out of nowhere, but I’m starting to suspect they don’t
  • The urge shows up as this relentless voice in my head making the case for why I should just do it, and as long as I’m arguing with the thought it owns me
  • The craving to pour the drink, raid the fridge, send the message lands like it absolutely cannot wait
  • The urge to bail hits like it’s non-negotiable, like I have to act on it right now
  • I either fight the urge with everything I’ve got or I give in — there’s no third option in me.

Practices that may help

  1. Map your urge triggers
    Know the specific situations, emotions, and states that reliably trigger your urges — so you can intervene before they crest.
    Ride the Wave (Urge Management), Made Practical
  2. Locate the urge in your body
    Track where the urge lives physically — in tension, heat, agitation — rather than engaging with the thought that wants you to act.
    Ride the Wave (Urge Management), Made Practical
  3. Urge Surfing: Riding Out the Impulse Without Acting
    Treat an urge to act impulsively like a wave — observe it rise and fall without being swept away.
    The STOP Skill: A DBT Technique for Crisis Moments
  4. Surf the urge to avoid instead of obeying it
    Treat the avoidance impulse as a wave to observe and outlast, not a command to obey.
    Embracing Discomfort: Turning Resistance Into Growth
  5. Observe without obeying
    Watch the urge fully — feel its pull, note its strength — without doing anything it demands.
    Ride the Wave (Urge Management), Made Practical
  6. Delay action with a time-based contract
    Pre-commit to a specific waiting period before acting on any urge — giving the wave time to crest.
    Ride the Wave (Urge Management), Made Practical
  7. Understand the anatomy of an urge
    Learn that urges have a beginning, a peak, and an end — and that acting on or fighting them changes the arc.
    Ride the Wave (Urge Management), Made Practical
  8. Surf the urge instead of fighting it
    Urges are waves — they rise, peak, and fall without action if you observe rather than fight them.
    The Willpower Instinct: What Self-Control Actually Is
  9. Notice the urge as it arises
    Catch the craving early, the moment it starts, before it becomes an automatic action.
    Urge Surfing: Riding the Wave of a Craving
  10. Use mindfulness to notice the urge to delay without acting on it
    Observe the impulse to switch tasks or check your phone as a transient sensation, not a command.
    Procrastination as Emotion Regulation

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