Coaching practices for Awe and Proportion

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • I have to put a price on what I’m offering and the number sounds huge said out loud on its own
  • I feel small and stuck inside my own head, looping on my own problems, and I want something vast enough
  • I burn the same amount of time and worry on a tiny annoyance as I do on something genuinely serious
  • For a little while right after something takes my breath away, the stuff I’d been stressing about genuinely feels smaller and farther off
  • I tell myself we’re basically fine, but I have a nagging sense I’m overestimating what I bring and underestimating the friction

Practices that may help

  1. Reframe a cost against a larger, legitimate reference point
    A price or investment looks smaller when contrasted with a larger relevant figure.
    The Contrast Principle, Made Practical
  2. Seek out awe as a broadening and self-transcending emotion
    Awe expands perceived time, reduces self-focused thought, and increases prosocial behavior — and it can be deliberately accessed.
    Broaden-and-Build, Made Practical
  3. Design responses in proportion to actual scale before the emotion sets them
    Before deciding how much time, money, or effort to assign, anchor the amount to the scale of the problem.
    Scope Insensitivity: Why Scale Doesn’t Change Your Feelings
  4. Write from a small-self perspective after awe
    After an awe experience, write briefly from the perspective of someone whose personal concerns feel appropriately small.
    Awe and Well-Being, Made Practical
  5. Awe and Well-Being, Made Practical
    Awe — the emotion triggered by encountering something vast that challenges your current mental frameworks — reliably reduces self-focused thinking, lowers inflammatory markers in some studies, increases prosocial behavior, and expands the perceived sense of time available. Dacher Keltner’s research shows awe is more accessible than people think and can be deliberately cultivated without waiting for once-in-a-decade peak experiences.
  6. Audit your actual ratio periodically
    Estimate your recent positive-to-negative ratio to get an honest read on where you actually are.
    The Magic Relationship Ratio: Gottman's 5-to-1 Principle
  7. Apply the double-standard check: would I accept this reasoning if it pointed the other way?
    Test whether you are holding your team’s arguments to a lower bar than the other side’s.
    The Scout Mindset
  8. Test each component probability separately
    Before judging a joint claim, estimate each element on its own, then check whether the conjunction is lower.
    The Conjunction Fallacy — When "More Details" Feels More Likely
  9. WOOP: Wish, Outcome, Obstacle, Plan
    WOOP — Wish, Outcome, Obstacle, Plan — is Gabriele Oettingen’s science-based goal strategy: you picture the best outcome, then deliberately confront the inner obstacle in your way, and pair it with an if-then plan. Unlike pure positive thinking, WOOP combines mental contrasting with implementation intentions, and both halves have genuine support from randomized trials.
  10. Choosing the asymmetric and irregular deliberately
    In one area of your environment or work, choose the irregular, handmade, or asymmetric over the perfect and uniform.
    Wabi-Sabi: Finding Beauty in Imperfection

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