Coaching practices for Awe Prosocial Behavior

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• I give people things but it always comes out as a quick transaction
• I help people constantly but lately it’s coming from a place of "I should" or not wanting to look bad, and instead of feeling good it just leaves me drained and a little resentful
• I have to rally people to pitch in time or money for a cause we all care about, and I’m torn between asking for too little and getting a shrug, or asking for so much it guilts them
• I set up an automatic donation to a big cause and felt almost nothing
• I behave decently mostly out of fear of getting caught or breaking a rule, and it feels hollow and brittle

Practices that may help

1. Give in ways that strengthen social connection
   Make your giving a moment of relationship, not a transaction.
   Prosocial Spending: Why Giving Boosts Happiness
2. Check your motivation before the act
   Notice whether you’re acting from genuine care or from obligation — the emotion behind the act shapes the benefit you receive.
   Acts of Kindness, Made Practical
3. Apply door-in-the-face for prosocial or charitable asks
   The technique was originally tested in a prosocial context and works especially well when both parties share values.
   The Door-in-the-Face Technique, Made Practical
4. Give to a named, visible person
   Spend on someone specific enough that you can see or imagine their response.
   Prosocial Spending: Why Giving Boosts Happiness
5. Ground ethics in love and compassion, not rule compliance
   Let care for others — not fear of violation — be the engine of your moral conduct.
   The Perennial Philosophy, Made Practical
6. Acts of kindness
   Do one deliberate kind thing for another person — the giver benefits as much as or more than the receiver.
   Building Positive Emotions, Made Practical
7. Notice the ripple — secondary effects beyond the immediate act
   Watch for how a single act of kindness can propagate through a social network, which amplifies the meaning of the original act.
   Acts of Kindness, Made Practical
8. Allocate part of your values budget to others
   Prosocial spending — money spent on others — generates more lasting satisfaction per dollar than equivalent self-spending.
   Values-Based Spending, Made Practical
9. Prosocial Spending: Why Giving Boosts Happiness
   Elizabeth Dunn and Michael Norton’s research found that spending money on others — "prosocial spending" — reliably produces more happiness than spending the same amount on oneself, across income levels and cultures. The effect is real and replicates, though it is not unlimited: how you give matters as much as whether you give.
10. Extend kindness toward strangers, not just your inner circle
    Acts of kindness toward strangers often produce stronger well-being benefits than acts toward people you already help routinely.
    Acts of Kindness, Made Practical

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