Coaching practices for Become the Person You Want to Be

Describe almost anything you are working through and IX Coach finds the practices whose real-world fit is closest. For Become the Person You Want to Be, these are the strongest matches in the current practice library.

Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I’ve got this clear, vivid picture of the person I want to become, and I love daydreaming about them
• I keep chasing the number
• Deep down I see myself as someone who’s just scattered and bad at focusing, so every urge becomes a willpower fight I expect to lose
• The person I want to become still feels like a stranger I’m imagining, not someone I actually am yet
• When a feeling grabs me I become it

Practices that may help

1. Build a behavioral bridge to the possible self
   Identify one specific behavior your hoped-for self does that you can do today — then do it.
   Possible Selves, Made Practical
2. Identity-based habits
   “Every action is a vote for the type of person you wish to become.”
   Atomic Habits, Made Practical
3. Use identity pacts
   Adopt the self-image of an “indistractable” person so focus becomes who you are.
   Indistractable, Made Practical
4. Journal as the person you are becoming, not the person you have been
   Writing from your desired identity’s perspective, even tentatively, strengthens its psychological availability.
   Identity Priming, Made Practical
5. Make the subject-object move
   Turn something that has you ("I am anxious") into something you have and can examine ("I notice anxiety in me").
   Self-Authorship: Moving From the Socialized to the Self-Authored Mind
6. Build self-familiarity with new identities through low-stakes repetition
   Repeatedly acting in a new way — even in small doses — makes the new behavior feel like you.
   The Mere Exposure Effect, Made Practical
7. Find living examples of your hoped-for self
   Identify real people who embody your hoped-for self — their existence makes the representation concrete and credible.
   Possible Selves, Made Practical
8. Update and revise possible selves over time
   Revisit and rewrite your possible selves at least twice a year — the self you need to become changes as you grow.
   Possible Selves, Made Practical
9. Elaborate your hoped-for possible self
   Build a detailed, sensory-rich mental picture of a concrete future version of yourself — not an abstract goal, but a person.
   Possible Selves, Made Practical
10. Cultivate a scout identity: "I’m the kind of person who updates"
    Build an identity where intellectual updating is a strength, not a concession.
    The Scout Mindset

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