Coaching practices for Body Based Calm Down

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• The upset is sitting in my body, not my thoughts
• When I’m upset I instinctively want to hold my own face, the way someone would cup it if they were comforting me
• My heart’s pounding, my thoughts are racing, and I keep trying to think my way calm but my body is still floored
• When I’m worked up I can’t talk myself down alone, but ten minutes near someone calm and I feel my whole system settle
• My body is in full alarm right now

Practices that may help

1. Physical self-soothing
   Use touch, warmth, rocking, or breath to directly calm the nervous system.
   Self-Soothing, Made Practical
2. Face havening
   Gently stroke your cheekbones and forehead to activate the facial calm response.
   Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch
3. Come down from hyperarousal
   When you are over the top edge, use the body to bring arousal back down.
   The Window of Tolerance: Your Optimal Arousal Zone
4. Co-regulation (borrow a calmer nervous system)
   Use contact with a calm, safe person to bring your own system down — we regulate through each other first.
   Polyvagal Theory, Honestly Explained
5. TIPP — change your body chemistry fast
   Use Temperature, Intense exercise, Paced breathing, and Progressive muscle relaxation to drop overwhelm from the body up.
   Distress Tolerance Skills, Made Practical
6. Pair the anchor with slow breathing
   Attach your focus word to a slow, easy breath to add a direct physiological lever for calm.
   The Relaxation Response, Made Practical
7. Five-senses self-soothe
   Deliberately engage each sense with something genuinely comforting to redirect attention and activate the soothing system.
   Self-Soothing, Made Practical
8. Apply box breathing mid-task under mild physical load
   Practice the pattern during moderate physical effort (walking, stretching) to generalize regulation to embodied stress.
   Box Breathing, Made Practical
9. Co-Regulation: Borrowing Calm From Another Nervous System
   Co-regulation is the way one person’s calm, attuned nervous system helps settle another’s — a baby soothed in a steady caregiver’s arms is the original example, but it runs through adult relationships too. It works through attunement: tone, pace, presence, and matched-then-led calm. Drawn from developmental and relational research, it is presented here as an everyday skill for giving and receiving support, not as therapy.
10. Use soothing touch as a physiological anchor
    Physical self-touch — hand on heart, cupped hands on face — signals safety to the body.
    The Self-Compassion Break

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