Coaching practices for Calibrated Questions When Starting Out

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• My real decisions take months to resolve and matter too much for me to score them honestly, so I never get clean reps
• I make calls about how things will go all the time, but I never write them down or check them after
• I want to actually know whether my gut is any good — when I feel sure about something, am I right that often, or am I just confident?
• I’ve tried other people’s checklists and they always track things I don’t actually care about right now
• Every time I question someone’s decision they get defensive and start justifying themselves instead of actually thinking, and I can’t figure out why my questions keep landing like accusations.

Practices that may help

1. Calibrated Questions, Made Practical
   Calibrated questions are open "How" and "What" questions that hand the other party a problem to solve, letting you steer a negotiation or difficult conversation without commands or ultimatums. The technique comes from Chris Voss’s FBI hostage-negotiation work; its mechanism is grounded in autonomy psychology, though the specific scripts are practitioner craft rather than a lab-validated protocol.
2. Build calibration reps with low-stakes trivia and almanac questions
   Use factual trivia questions as a practice ground for calibration — outcomes resolve immediately and the stakes are zero.
   Calibration Training
3. Calibration Training
   Calibration training teaches you to match your stated confidence levels to your actual accuracy: if you say "70% confident," roughly 70% of those claims should turn out to be correct. Tetlock’s forecasting research and probability training studies show calibration is trainable with practice and feedback — the evidence here is specific and replicable.
4. Score your own past predictions to calibrate your outside-view use
   Keep a forecast log and score it — you cannot improve calibration without feedback on where you were over- or under-confident.
   The Outside View
5. Practice probability calibration
   Regularly make probabilistic predictions and track your accuracy across many of them.
   Hindsight Bias: Why Everything Seems Obvious in Retrospect
6. Design a personal question list that matches your current growth goals
   Build a short list of active questions that track the behaviors most relevant to your life right now — not a fixed template.
   The Morning Questions
7. Replace "why" with "how" or "what"
   "Why" sounds accusatory; "how" and "what" invite problem-solving.
   Calibrated Questions, Made Practical
8. Calibration practice
   Predict your performance before each retrieval test, then compare prediction to outcome.
   Self-Regulated Learning: Taking Control of How You Learn
9. Identify the specific domains where you are most overconfident
   Calibration is domain-specific — find where your confidence most exceeds your accuracy.
   Calibration Training
10. Replace statements with questions in familiar territory
    Wherever you would normally state a conclusion, form it as a genuine question instead.
    Beginner's Mind (Shoshin), Made Practical

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