Coaching practices for Character Strengths and Love

Describe almost anything you are working through and IX Coach finds the practices whose real-world fit is closest. For Character Strengths and Love, these are the strongest matches in the current practice library.

Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • I’ve got a list of my strengths but it reads like a flat personality quiz
  • With the person closest to me I’ve fallen into playing a role, and the most real parts of me stay tucked away
  • The very thing I’m best at turns on me under pressure
  • I catch myself scanning everyone around me for what’s wrong with them, and I want to flip that lens
  • If you asked me to name what I’m actually good at, I’d freeze

Practices that may help

  1. Connect individual strengths to the broader virtues they serve
    Understand which of the six VIA virtues your signature strengths express, and what that reveals about your character.
    VIA Character Strengths, Made Practical
  2. Apply strengths consciously in your most important relationships
    Identify how your signature strengths are showing up — or failing to show up — in the relationships that matter most.
    VIA Character Strengths, Made Practical
  3. VIA Character Strengths, Made Practical
    Peterson and Seligman’s VIA Classification identifies 24 character strengths organized under six virtues, and multiple randomized trials find that using your top "signature strengths" in new ways reliably increases well-being and decreases depressive symptoms. The effect is most robust when strengths are deployed in engaged, relational ways — not just recognized but actively applied.
  4. Map how your strengths distort under stress
    Identify the "overuse" and "underuse" of each signature strength — how they show up when you’re at your worst.
    VIA Character Strengths, Made Practical
  5. Spot and name character strengths in others
    Notice and explicitly name the character strengths you observe in people around you.
    VIA Character Strengths, Made Practical
  6. Take the VIA survey and identify your signature strengths
    Discover your top five to seven character strengths using the validated VIA survey.
    VIA Character Strengths, Made Practical
  7. Identify your core strengths through your own history
    Find the recurring threads in your best moments to name the strengths that are actually yours.
    Life Review and Reminiscence Therapy
  8. Name and wrestle with your besetting weakness
    Identify the one recurring moral failure and choose a practice that confronts it daily.
    The Eulogy Virtues: Building a Life of Character
  9. Use your signature strengths in a new way
    Identify your top character strengths and deploy one of them differently each day.
    Positive Psychology, Made Practical
  10. Building character through deliberate repetition
    Choose one character quality you want to embody and perform one specific act of it daily until it no longer requires effort.
    Aristotelian Eudaimonia: Flourishing Through Virtue

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