Coaching practices for Commitment Before Feedback
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I set a goal and then just go quiet on it, never checking where I actually stand until the deadline ambushes me
- Right now I’m fired up and ready, but I already know future-me is going to talk myself out of it when the moment comes
- We’re about to kick off something new and everyone has private hunches about what it’ll take to pull off
- I blurt out corrections in the heat of the moment, often right in front of other people, and instead of taking it in they just get humiliated and dig in
- When I just hand someone my assessment they go passive and defensive, like I’m doing something to them
Practices that may help
- Close the loop with regular, specific feedback
Goals without feedback are motivationally inert — feedback is the other half.
Goal Setting Theory, Made Practical - Use commitment devices to make future behavior harder to avoid
Pre-commit to the behavior now — when your current self is motivated — to bind your future self.
Action Planning - Use feedforward to align team members on goals before projects begin
At the start of a project, invite feedforward on how to succeed — before any performance to critique.
Feedforward: Future-Focused Feedback That Actually Changes Behavior - Choose the right moment and setting for feedback
Feedback lands in proportion to how safe and ready the receiver feels — timing and privacy matter.
The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical - Ask what the person already knows before offering your assessment
Ask the person to evaluate their own performance before giving yours.
The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead - Give something genuine before you ask for something hard
The trust account needs deposits before you make a withdrawal — invest in the relationship before demanding performance.
Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor - Give feedback in the moment, not stockpiled for reviews
Feedback accumulated for a periodic review arrives late and in bulk — neither helps.
The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead - Commitment Contracts, Made Practical
A commitment contract binds your future self to a course of action by attaching real costs — financial, social, or reputational — to failure. The evidence from savings programs and behavioral economics is solid for financial commitments; effects on health and habit change are positive but more variable, and contracts work best when you already want to change. - Feedforward: Future-Focused Feedback That Actually Changes Behavior
Feedforward, developed by executive coach Marshall Goldsmith, replaces backward-looking critique with forward-looking suggestions — asking "what ideas do you have for the future?" rather than "what did I do wrong?" The core claim is that people are more receptive to ideas about what they could do than to judgments about what they did. Evidence is primarily clinical and practitioner-based rather than from controlled trials. - Create a feedback acknowledgment ritual to close each tracking cycle
A brief, consistent closing ritual after reviewing behavioral data anchors the feedback loop and prevents it from becoming pure surveillance.
Feedback Loops and Behavior Change
Related concerns
- Feedback For Growth Not Performance
Ask for feedback that challenges your assumptions about how you see, not just how you perform.
Seek developmental feedback, not just performance feedback
- Feedback Frequency
Match how often you check feedback to how often the behavior occurs — too frequent is noise, too rare is lag.
Calibrate feedback frequency to the behavior cycle
- Feedforward
Feedforward, developed by executive coach Marshall Goldsmith, replaces backward-looking critique with forward-looking suggestions — asking "what ideas do you have for the future?" rather than "what did I do wrong?" The core claim is that people are more receptive to ideas about what they could do than to judgments about what they did. Evidence is primarily clinical and practitioner-based rather than from controlled trials.
- Feedforward Future Focused Feedback That Actually Changes Behavior When Burned Out
Feedforward, developed by executive coach Marshall Goldsmith, replaces backward-looking critique with forward-looking suggestions — asking "what ideas do you have for the future?" rather than "what did I do wrong?" The core claim is that people are more receptive to ideas about what they could do than to judgments about what they did. Evidence is primarily clinical and practitioner-based rather than from controlled trials.
- Feedforward Future Focused Feedback That Actually Changes Behavior When Overwhelmed
Feedforward, developed by executive coach Marshall Goldsmith, replaces backward-looking critique with forward-looking suggestions — asking "what ideas do you have for the future?" rather than "what did I do wrong?" The core claim is that people are more receptive to ideas about what they could do than to judgments about what they did. Evidence is primarily clinical and practitioner-based rather than from controlled trials.
- Forward Looking Feedback
Feedforward, developed by executive coach Marshall Goldsmith, replaces backward-looking critique with forward-looking suggestions — asking "what ideas do you have for the future?" rather than "what did I do wrong?" The core claim is that people are more receptive to ideas about what they could do than to judgments about what they did. Evidence is primarily clinical and practitioner-based rather than from controlled trials.
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