Coaching practices for Compassion Focused Therapy

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  • When everything’s falling apart I have nobody in my head to turn to
  • Someone I love is suffering and there is nothing I can actually do to fix it, and that helplessness is unbearable
  • Every time I try to be gentle with myself my body’s still wound tight and braced, and the calming part just won’t take
  • One part of me wants out, another part won’t let me, and they just war with each other on a loop
  • My pain comes wrapped in this lonely conviction that I’m the only one who feels this exact thing, that something’s uniquely wrong with me

Practices that may help

  1. Compassion-Focused Therapy: Calming the Inner Critic
    Compassion-Focused Therapy (CFT), developed by Paul Gilbert, targets shame and self-criticism by training a compassionate inner voice to replace the punitive self-critic. It draws on evolutionary psychology and affective neuroscience — specifically, the finding that different emotional systems (threat, drive, soothing) have distinct neurobiological profiles. A growing body of RCT evidence supports CFT for shame-based difficulties, self-criticism, and depression, though the evidence base is smaller than for CBT.
  2. Compassionate Imagery: The Compassionate Image and Safe Place
    Develop a vivid compassionate figure in imagination whose care you can access during distress.
    Compassion-Focused Therapy: Calming the Inner Critic
  3. Direct tonglen toward a specific suffering person
    Bring a person who is suffering to mind and breathe in their pain; breathe out whatever would give them relief.
    Tonglen: The Tibetan Practice of Taking and Sending
  4. Soothing Rhythm Breathing
    Use slow, rhythmic breathing to deliberately activate the physiological soothing system before other compassion practices.
    Compassion-Focused Therapy: Calming the Inner Critic
  5. Solution-Focused Brief Therapy: Building On What Works
    Solution-focused brief therapy (SFBT), developed by Steve de Shazer and Insoo Kim Berg, directs attention to what already works — client strengths, past successes, and desired futures — rather than to analyzing problems. Meta-analyses report small-to-moderate positive effects across a range of presenting issues, with particular strength in behavioral problems and depression in adult populations.
  6. Fierce Self-Compassion, Made Practical
    Kristin Neff distinguishes two modes of self-compassion: tender (comforting and accepting) and fierce (protecting, providing, and motivating through clear, courageous action). Fierce self-compassion is not aggression — it is the warm, clear-eyed strength you would show on behalf of someone you deeply love, now directed at yourself. Research on self-compassion broadly supports both modes, though fierce self-compassion as a distinct construct is newer and primarily has observational and clinical support.
  7. Working with Multiple Selves (Chair Work in CFT)
    Give voice to different internal parts — the critic, the anxious self, the compassionate self — to understand and change the dialogue.
    Compassion-Focused Therapy: Calming the Inner Critic
  8. Expand tonglen to include all beings who share this suffering
    Whatever you are suffering, countless others feel it too — breathe in the shared pain, breathe out shared relief.
    Tonglen: The Tibetan Practice of Taking and Sending
  9. N — Nurture with self-compassion
    Offer the part that is suffering what it most needs — care, acknowledgment, reassurance — as you would a dear friend.
    RAIN Meditation: Tara Brach’s Four-Step Practice
  10. Developing the Compassionate Self Voice
    Build an inner voice that responds to your suffering with wisdom, warmth, and commitment to wellbeing.
    Compassion-Focused Therapy: Calming the Inner Critic

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